Monday, July 1, 2013
18 months
I can't believe it has been more than 18 months since I have posted. Look for more to come.
Monday, September 26, 2011
While I am in agreement that illegal immigration must be stopped, I am against the eVerify legislation for the following reasons:
1. Creates a de facto national I.D. System - even for citizens;
2. Violates individual civil liberties such as the right to work and free speech;
3. Mandates a costly job-killing regulatory burden that cripples small business;
4. Requires employers to become enforcement agents of the federal government;
5. Encourages identify theft of law-abiding citizens.
Benjamin Franklin said it best when he said, “Anyone who trades liberty for security deserves neither liberty nor security”.
For more information, go to: http://www.takebackwashington.org/Clint_s_Open_Letter_html.html
Sincerely,
Melissa Ortiz,
Founder
Able Americans
@ableamericans
@dcbelleonwheels
1. Creates a de facto national I.D. System - even for citizens;
2. Violates individual civil liberties such as the right to work and free speech;
3. Mandates a costly job-killing regulatory burden that cripples small business;
4. Requires employers to become enforcement agents of the federal government;
5. Encourages identify theft of law-abiding citizens.
Benjamin Franklin said it best when he said, “Anyone who trades liberty for security deserves neither liberty nor security”.
For more information, go to: http://www.takebackwashington.org/Clint_s_Open_Letter_html.html
Sincerely,
Melissa Ortiz,
Founder
Able Americans
@ableamericans
@dcbelleonwheels
Saturday, July 23, 2011
No More Tokens
We used to use them to ride the buses and subways. We still use them to play games in casinos and arcades. But there’s another kind of token. Instead of being metal and round, the tokens often played in life are made of flesh and blood.
Human beings aren’t supposed to be tokens. All too often, especially in politics, we see them used as such. For too long, minorities have been played for fools by liberals who are simply trying to further their own agenda of more government control over the daily lives of private citizens.
Tokenism is a dangerous thing. It creates a mindset that there are two classes of people: the players and those being played. The criteria for these categories vary, but, as discussed in this article, the tokens are people with disabilities and the players are the liberal left.
Too often, liberals will “include” people with disabilities in photo ops, campaign stops, and community outreach events in order to be able to symbolically pat themselves on the back and say, “Look at me. I am friends with everyone. I help everyone.” People with disabilities, especially the wounded heroes returning from the Middle East, are not tokens to be played in politics, but that’s how liberals treat us.
The liberal left has fooled many people with disabilities into thinking that they can’t care for themselves without government intervention. My contention is that I don’t need to be helped by the government. I am perfectly able to take care of myself. When I need help with something, I can reach out to my support system in my community, family, and church. I need a safety net, not a hammock. Unfortunately, well-meaning people promote entitlement programs that create classes of people with little ambition or self esteem. These programs make people with disabilities into hammock dwellers rather than independent citizens who contribute to society and who need a safety net only in the event that they are momentarily unable to care for themselves and have nowhere else to turn.
Quite honestly, conservatives have not really known what to do, so they have done almost nothing in order to avoid treating people as tokens. They want to behave differently from liberals, but often take it to the opposite extreme and completely ignore people with disabilities or place unrealistic expectations on them.
These differences in perspective were all too evident in the election of 2008.
One ticket pandered shamelessly to people with disabilities by saying “We love you. You don’t have to do a thing. We’ll take care of everything for you.”
The other ticket promised an advocate in the White House.
We all know what happened: The latter ticket lost, and the result was the advent of the current administration, which is no friend to people of any age with disabilities, as is evidenced by ObamaCare and other measures.
I have experienced these dynamics first hand. Recently, I was on the Hill when a Democratic congressman marched up to me, patted me on the head and said dismissively, “Aren’t you just the cutest little thing!” I bit back the angry retort on the tip of my tongue, deciding that the best way to respond to his dismissive attitude was to smile, go about my business and go about it well. A conservative I met with later that day wasn’t much better, to be honest. He was obviously uncomfortable talking to me for fear of offending me or embarrassing himself. I had an almost irresistible urge to hug him and assure him that it was okay, to just make the effort and leave my response up to me.
As a woman with a disability, what drew me to the Tea Party movement is that it truly represented a cross-section of loyal, faithful Americans and that no one was put on display simply to make a point. Trust me, I know all about tokenism and the harm it does. The Tea Party stands against tokenism. It promotes the idea that each person is responsible for making the most possible of himself or herself. It focuses on what the individual can do and on what the individual can contribute to our beloved Republic. The Tea Party teaches all citizens, disabled or not, to be their own best advocates by participating in the process as a part of “we the people.”
Every single American has something to offer this country. I am a patriot determined to restore this country to its former glory. I will simply be making that happen on wheels.
Human beings aren’t supposed to be tokens. All too often, especially in politics, we see them used as such. For too long, minorities have been played for fools by liberals who are simply trying to further their own agenda of more government control over the daily lives of private citizens.
Tokenism is a dangerous thing. It creates a mindset that there are two classes of people: the players and those being played. The criteria for these categories vary, but, as discussed in this article, the tokens are people with disabilities and the players are the liberal left.
Too often, liberals will “include” people with disabilities in photo ops, campaign stops, and community outreach events in order to be able to symbolically pat themselves on the back and say, “Look at me. I am friends with everyone. I help everyone.” People with disabilities, especially the wounded heroes returning from the Middle East, are not tokens to be played in politics, but that’s how liberals treat us.
The liberal left has fooled many people with disabilities into thinking that they can’t care for themselves without government intervention. My contention is that I don’t need to be helped by the government. I am perfectly able to take care of myself. When I need help with something, I can reach out to my support system in my community, family, and church. I need a safety net, not a hammock. Unfortunately, well-meaning people promote entitlement programs that create classes of people with little ambition or self esteem. These programs make people with disabilities into hammock dwellers rather than independent citizens who contribute to society and who need a safety net only in the event that they are momentarily unable to care for themselves and have nowhere else to turn.
Quite honestly, conservatives have not really known what to do, so they have done almost nothing in order to avoid treating people as tokens. They want to behave differently from liberals, but often take it to the opposite extreme and completely ignore people with disabilities or place unrealistic expectations on them.
These differences in perspective were all too evident in the election of 2008.
One ticket pandered shamelessly to people with disabilities by saying “We love you. You don’t have to do a thing. We’ll take care of everything for you.”
The other ticket promised an advocate in the White House.
We all know what happened: The latter ticket lost, and the result was the advent of the current administration, which is no friend to people of any age with disabilities, as is evidenced by ObamaCare and other measures.
I have experienced these dynamics first hand. Recently, I was on the Hill when a Democratic congressman marched up to me, patted me on the head and said dismissively, “Aren’t you just the cutest little thing!” I bit back the angry retort on the tip of my tongue, deciding that the best way to respond to his dismissive attitude was to smile, go about my business and go about it well. A conservative I met with later that day wasn’t much better, to be honest. He was obviously uncomfortable talking to me for fear of offending me or embarrassing himself. I had an almost irresistible urge to hug him and assure him that it was okay, to just make the effort and leave my response up to me.
As a woman with a disability, what drew me to the Tea Party movement is that it truly represented a cross-section of loyal, faithful Americans and that no one was put on display simply to make a point. Trust me, I know all about tokenism and the harm it does. The Tea Party stands against tokenism. It promotes the idea that each person is responsible for making the most possible of himself or herself. It focuses on what the individual can do and on what the individual can contribute to our beloved Republic. The Tea Party teaches all citizens, disabled or not, to be their own best advocates by participating in the process as a part of “we the people.”
Every single American has something to offer this country. I am a patriot determined to restore this country to its former glory. I will simply be making that happen on wheels.
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
My Speech at BGSU's TEA Party
Here it is folks! Enjoy! I had my own heckler and everything. :)
Part 1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g3kgwu50KSs
Part 2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XYWz134ks0c
Part 3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x15aRTPet84
Part 1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g3kgwu50KSs
Part 2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XYWz134ks0c
Part 3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x15aRTPet84
Saturday, April 3, 2010
Things from the New Health Law you should know.
I'm sick to death of people telling me that I don't know what I'm talking about when it comes to the new health care laws. For your edification, here is a partial list of what the new law mandates. To download a copy of the new law and see for yourself, go to www.loc.gov, click on the Thomas tab and search for the new health care law.
Those of you who use wheelchairs will be especially interested in what is found on Page 268, Section 1141. Those of you who are considered "special needs" or who have children with special needs, take a look at Page 354, Section 1177.
So, here goes:
This is what's coming.
Partial Extracts from the Health Care Bill.
Page 22 of the bill: Mandates that the Government will audit books of all employers that self-insure!
Page 30 Sec 123 of the bill: There WILL BE a government committee that decides what treatments/benefits you receive. I think some called this the death panel.
Page 29 lines 4-16 in the bill: Your healthcare can be rationed.
Page 42 of bill: The Health Choices Commissioner will choose your healthcare benefits for you. You have no choice, and the criteria by which your healthcare is determined is not mentioned.
Page 50 Section 152 in the bill: Healthcare will be provided to ALL citizens, illegal aliens included.
Page 58 of the bill: Government will have real-time access to the finances of ALL individuals, and a ‘National ID Health card’ will be issued!
Page 59 of the bill, lines 21-24: Government will have direct access to your bank accounts for elective funds transfer.
Page 65 Sec 164of the bill: Is a payoff subsidized plan for retirees and their families in unions & community organizations: (such as ACORN).
Page 84 Sec 203 of the bill: Government mandates that ALL benefit packages for private healthcare plans in the ‘Exchange.’
Page 85 Line 7 of the bill: Specifications of Benefit Levels for Plans — The government will ration your healthcare!
Page 91 Lines 4-7 of the bill: Government mandates linguistic appropriate services (translators for illegal aliens and others who won’t speak English)
Page 95 of the bill Lines 8-18: The government will use groups (i.e. ACORN & Americorps) to sign up individuals for government healthcare plan.
Page 85 Line 7 of the bill: Specifications of Benefit Levels for Plans. (AARP members - your healthcare WILL be rationed!)
Page 102 Lines 12-18 of the bill: Medicaid eligible individuals will be automatically enrolled in Medicaid. (No choice.)
Page 12 4 lines 24-25 of the bill: No company can sue the government on price fixing. No “judicial review” against Government monopoly.
Page 127 Lines 1-16 of the bill: Doctors/American Medical Association - The Government will tell YOU what salary you can make.
Page 145 Line 15-17 of the bill: An Employer MUST auto-enroll employees into public option plan. (NO choice!)
Page 126 Lines 22-25 of the bill: Employers MUST pay for healthcare for part-time employees AND their families. (Employees shouldn’t get excited about this as employers will be forced to reduce its work force, benefits, and wages/salaries to cover such a huge expense.)
Page 149 Lines 16-24 of the bill: Any employer with payroll 401k & above who does not provide public option will pay 8% tax on all payroll! (See the last comment in parenthesis.)
Page 150 Lines 9-13 of the bill: A business with payroll between $251K & $401K who doesn’t provide public option will pay 2-6% tax on all payroll.
Page 167 Lines 18-23 of the bill: Any individual who doesn’t have acceptable(?) Healthcare according to the government, will be taxed 2.5% of income.
Page 170 Lines 1-3 of the bill: Any non-resident Alien is exempt from individual taxes. (American citizens will pay those taxes.)
Page 195 of the bill: Officers & employees of the government healthcare administration will have access to ALL American’s’ finances and personal records.
Page 203 Line 14-15 of the bill: “The tax imposed under this section shall not be treated as tax.” (Yes, it really says that!). It will be called a “fee.”
Page 239 Line 14-24 of the bill: Government will reduce physician services for Medicaid Seniors. (Low-income and the poor are affected.)
Page 241 Line 6-8 of the bill: Doctors: It doesn’t matter what specialty you have trained yourself in — you will all be paid the same!
Page 253 Line 10-18 of the bill: The government sets the value of a doctor’s time, profession, judgment, etc. (Literally– the value of humans.)
Page 265 Sec 1131 of the bill: The government mandates and controls productivity for “private” healthcare industries.
Page 268 Sec 1141 of the bill: The federal government regulates the rental and purchase of power driven wheelchairs.
Page 272 SEC. 1145 of the bill: Treatment of certain cancer hospitals will be regulated by the government. (Rationed cancer treatment)
Page 280 Sec 1151 of the bill: The government will penalize hospitals for whatever the government deems preventable.
Page 298 Lines 9-11 of the bill: Doctors: If you treat a patient during initial admission that results in a re-admission — you are subject to a government penalty.
Page 317 L 13-20 of the bill: Prohibition on ownership/investment. (The government tells doctors what and how much they can own!)
Page 317-318 lines 21-25, 1-3 of the bill: Prohibition on expansion. (The government is mandating that hospitals cannot expand.)
Page 321 2-13 of the bill: Hospitals have the opportunity to apply for exception BUT community input is required.
Page 335 L 16-25 Pg 336-339 of the bill: The government mandates establishment of outcome-based measures.
Page 341 Lines 3-9 of the bill: The government has authority to disqualify Medicare Advance Plans, HMOs, etc. (Forcing people into the government plan)
Page 354 Sec 1177 of the bill: The government will RESTRICT enrollment of ’special needs people.
Page 379 Sec 1191 of the bill: The government creates more bureaucracy via a “Tele-Health Advisory Committee.” (Healthcare by phone?)
Page 425 Lines 4-12 of the bill: The government mandates “Advance-Care Planning Consult.” (Think senior citizens end-of-life nudging)
Page 425 Lines 17-19 of the bill: The government will instruct and consult regarding living wills, durable powers of attorney, etc. (And it’s mandatory!)
Page 425 Lines 22-25, 426 Lines 1-3 of the bill: The government provides an “approved” list of end-of-life resources; guiding you in death. (Also called ‘assisted suicide.’)
Page 427 Lines 15-24 of the bill: The government mandates a program for orders on “end-of-life.” (The government has a say in how your life ends!)
Page 429 Lines 1-9 of the bill: An “advanced-care planning consultant” will be used frequently as a patient’s health deteriorates.
Page 429 Lines 10-12 of the bill: An “advanced care consultation” may include an ORDER for end-of-life plans..
Page 429 Lines 13-25 of the bill: The government will specify which doctors can write an end-of-life order..
Page 430 Lines 11-15 of the bill: The government will decide what level of treatment you will have at end-of-life! (Patient has no choice or option)
Page 469 of the bill: Community-Based Home Medical Services = Non-Profit Organizations.
Page 489 Sec 1308 of the bill: The government will cover marriage and family therapy. (The government WILL insert itself into your marriage.)
Page 494-498 of the bill: The government will cover Mental Health Services including defining, creating, and rationing those services.
NOW DO YOU GET IT?!
Those of you who use wheelchairs will be especially interested in what is found on Page 268, Section 1141. Those of you who are considered "special needs" or who have children with special needs, take a look at Page 354, Section 1177.
So, here goes:
This is what's coming.
Partial Extracts from the Health Care Bill.
Page 22 of the bill: Mandates that the Government will audit books of all employers that self-insure!
Page 30 Sec 123 of the bill: There WILL BE a government committee that decides what treatments/benefits you receive. I think some called this the death panel.
Page 29 lines 4-16 in the bill: Your healthcare can be rationed.
Page 42 of bill: The Health Choices Commissioner will choose your healthcare benefits for you. You have no choice, and the criteria by which your healthcare is determined is not mentioned.
Page 50 Section 152 in the bill: Healthcare will be provided to ALL citizens, illegal aliens included.
Page 58 of the bill: Government will have real-time access to the finances of ALL individuals, and a ‘National ID Health card’ will be issued!
Page 59 of the bill, lines 21-24: Government will have direct access to your bank accounts for elective funds transfer.
Page 65 Sec 164of the bill: Is a payoff subsidized plan for retirees and their families in unions & community organizations: (such as ACORN).
Page 84 Sec 203 of the bill: Government mandates that ALL benefit packages for private healthcare plans in the ‘Exchange.’
Page 85 Line 7 of the bill: Specifications of Benefit Levels for Plans — The government will ration your healthcare!
Page 91 Lines 4-7 of the bill: Government mandates linguistic appropriate services (translators for illegal aliens and others who won’t speak English)
Page 95 of the bill Lines 8-18: The government will use groups (i.e. ACORN & Americorps) to sign up individuals for government healthcare plan.
Page 85 Line 7 of the bill: Specifications of Benefit Levels for Plans. (AARP members - your healthcare WILL be rationed!)
Page 102 Lines 12-18 of the bill: Medicaid eligible individuals will be automatically enrolled in Medicaid. (No choice.)
Page 12 4 lines 24-25 of the bill: No company can sue the government on price fixing. No “judicial review” against Government monopoly.
Page 127 Lines 1-16 of the bill: Doctors/American Medical Association - The Government will tell YOU what salary you can make.
Page 145 Line 15-17 of the bill: An Employer MUST auto-enroll employees into public option plan. (NO choice!)
Page 126 Lines 22-25 of the bill: Employers MUST pay for healthcare for part-time employees AND their families. (Employees shouldn’t get excited about this as employers will be forced to reduce its work force, benefits, and wages/salaries to cover such a huge expense.)
Page 149 Lines 16-24 of the bill: Any employer with payroll 401k & above who does not provide public option will pay 8% tax on all payroll! (See the last comment in parenthesis.)
Page 150 Lines 9-13 of the bill: A business with payroll between $251K & $401K who doesn’t provide public option will pay 2-6% tax on all payroll.
Page 167 Lines 18-23 of the bill: Any individual who doesn’t have acceptable(?) Healthcare according to the government, will be taxed 2.5% of income.
Page 170 Lines 1-3 of the bill: Any non-resident Alien is exempt from individual taxes. (American citizens will pay those taxes.)
Page 195 of the bill: Officers & employees of the government healthcare administration will have access to ALL American’s’ finances and personal records.
Page 203 Line 14-15 of the bill: “The tax imposed under this section shall not be treated as tax.” (Yes, it really says that!). It will be called a “fee.”
Page 239 Line 14-24 of the bill: Government will reduce physician services for Medicaid Seniors. (Low-income and the poor are affected.)
Page 241 Line 6-8 of the bill: Doctors: It doesn’t matter what specialty you have trained yourself in — you will all be paid the same!
Page 253 Line 10-18 of the bill: The government sets the value of a doctor’s time, profession, judgment, etc. (Literally– the value of humans.)
Page 265 Sec 1131 of the bill: The government mandates and controls productivity for “private” healthcare industries.
Page 268 Sec 1141 of the bill: The federal government regulates the rental and purchase of power driven wheelchairs.
Page 272 SEC. 1145 of the bill: Treatment of certain cancer hospitals will be regulated by the government. (Rationed cancer treatment)
Page 280 Sec 1151 of the bill: The government will penalize hospitals for whatever the government deems preventable.
Page 298 Lines 9-11 of the bill: Doctors: If you treat a patient during initial admission that results in a re-admission — you are subject to a government penalty.
Page 317 L 13-20 of the bill: Prohibition on ownership/investment. (The government tells doctors what and how much they can own!)
Page 317-318 lines 21-25, 1-3 of the bill: Prohibition on expansion. (The government is mandating that hospitals cannot expand.)
Page 321 2-13 of the bill: Hospitals have the opportunity to apply for exception BUT community input is required.
Page 335 L 16-25 Pg 336-339 of the bill: The government mandates establishment of outcome-based measures.
Page 341 Lines 3-9 of the bill: The government has authority to disqualify Medicare Advance Plans, HMOs, etc. (Forcing people into the government plan)
Page 354 Sec 1177 of the bill: The government will RESTRICT enrollment of ’special needs people.
Page 379 Sec 1191 of the bill: The government creates more bureaucracy via a “Tele-Health Advisory Committee.” (Healthcare by phone?)
Page 425 Lines 4-12 of the bill: The government mandates “Advance-Care Planning Consult.” (Think senior citizens end-of-life nudging)
Page 425 Lines 17-19 of the bill: The government will instruct and consult regarding living wills, durable powers of attorney, etc. (And it’s mandatory!)
Page 425 Lines 22-25, 426 Lines 1-3 of the bill: The government provides an “approved” list of end-of-life resources; guiding you in death. (Also called ‘assisted suicide.’)
Page 427 Lines 15-24 of the bill: The government mandates a program for orders on “end-of-life.” (The government has a say in how your life ends!)
Page 429 Lines 1-9 of the bill: An “advanced-care planning consultant” will be used frequently as a patient’s health deteriorates.
Page 429 Lines 10-12 of the bill: An “advanced care consultation” may include an ORDER for end-of-life plans..
Page 429 Lines 13-25 of the bill: The government will specify which doctors can write an end-of-life order..
Page 430 Lines 11-15 of the bill: The government will decide what level of treatment you will have at end-of-life! (Patient has no choice or option)
Page 469 of the bill: Community-Based Home Medical Services = Non-Profit Organizations.
Page 489 Sec 1308 of the bill: The government will cover marriage and family therapy. (The government WILL insert itself into your marriage.)
Page 494-498 of the bill: The government will cover Mental Health Services including defining, creating, and rationing those services.
NOW DO YOU GET IT?!
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Old Glory on her head.
Facebook is both a blessing and a bane. I love it, though. I've reconnected with friends from all sorts of places and times in my life. I've also met people of both like mind and diametrically opposing view points. That's good. Both sorts strengthen me. I've got strong opinions and I can support them, so I welcome discourse. A recent change I made to my FB page, though, has created far more discussion than I ever anticipated.
Before I disclose the change and its aftermath, let me set the stage for you:
One of the excuses...er, reasons...I've not kept this blog current is my intense involvement in blocking the passage of the monstrosity known as Obamacare. Obviously, it is now law and I'm working to repeal it. I had hoped this time in our Nation's life wouldn't come, but it has. We are in distress.
On the weekend of the final vote in the House, thousands of citizens converged on the Hill here in DC to speak to their Congressmen and make known their opposition to this legislation. I felt like I was everywhere at once making sure people understood the facts of the legislation, helping people find the offices of their Congressmen, explaining the lobbying process, having civil discussions with the press and other interested parties and comforting people who were hurt by the treatment they received in those offices upon exercising their right to be heard and their duty to hold their leadership accountable. Some of it wasn't pretty.
Throughout the day, I met many dedicated Patriots and two gorgeous Newfoundland dogs, much to Lucy Doxie (my service dog)'s discomfiture.She tends to think she is the only dog that has permission to be anywhere near me. Besides being great at detecting petit mal seizures and alerting me to their impending onset, she's a great ice breaker with people who might not ordinarily talk to me even if she is a little possessive.
Lucy led me that day into an encounter I will never forget. She was walking beside me and suddenly went running up to an older gentleman proudly wearing his military medals and a VFW hat while sitting in the hot sun in his wheelchair. It turns out that he loves dachshunds and as Lucy was receiving what she deemed to be her justly deserved adoration, the man and I began to talk. He was a veteran of World War 2. He'd been in combat and he'd been in the group of soldiers who liberated the death camps in Europe. At the direction of his superior, Ike, he took pictures of the scenes and faces that greeted his unit. When he wasn't taking pictures or helping other soldiers with their photographs, he was busy tending to the people who had managed to survive in those horrific places. He told me it changed him forever by making him more passionate than he ever thought possible about liberty and this nation that espouses it. At the end of our conversation, he looked at me with tears in his eyes and pleaded with me to not let the freedom and liberty for which he had fought so hard, and for which his friends had died, end with my generation. I am tearing up even now as I recall it. One thing he said was along the lines of "Old Glory will be turned on her head at my house until this is stopped." That thought stayed with me all day.
That night when I finally sat down at my computer to check email and play on Facebook, an idea struck me. Our nation was in distress. In military terms, the symbol of distress was to fly the flag upside down. In other words, to "turn Old Glory on her head." So, I changed my profile picture to an image of our beloved flag flying upside down. Interestingly enough, I was not the only person to do so and I'm wondering if the other people who did so on FB and who are flying the flag upside down at their homes and businesses have received as many interesting comments as I have.
Several of my friends have taken it upon themselves to educate me about proper flag etiquette. A side note: it just kills me how the rules of etiquette are trotted out to suit someone's purposes and ignored the rest of the time. Amazing. At any rate, what every single one of those people failed to acknowledge is that our Nation is in CRISIS and my flag was therefore appropriately displayed. We are in DISTRESS, folks. One of my friends even thought flying the flag upside down was a sign of surrender and she asked me for what reason and to what cause I was surrendering. She said she was treading lightly since she couldn't remember if I'd been in the military or not. For someone who knew me in college and lived down the hall from me for a while, her memory sure is short.
This is part of what I said to her:
About the flag, it is absolutely NOT a sign of surrender, but it IS a sign of distress, even as the code says. Our nation is in distress because of the financial and governmental crisis in which we find ourselves.
My childhood dream was to be a West Point cadet who went on to become a General. However, having been born with a mobility impairment that dream was not to be realized (remember that I rode around our college campus in a yellow golf cart because I couldn't walk well?). It is in honor of those who are giving their lives in service and who have sacrificed their lives in service to our country that I fly Old Glory upside down. Many of the veterans and currently serving soldiers that I know are doing the same for all the same reasons. These are serious times and, as such, demand serious measures.
I, too, am a trained and experienced journalist who had her own radio show at one point. I have looked at all sides of the issues we are dealing with as a Nation today. We are not only in a point of national crisis, but also in a point of individual crisis. We've forgotten that actions and choices have consequences, both good and bad. We've forgotten that everything we do as individuals impacts someone else. We've forfeited control over too much of our individual lives to a government that does not have our best interests at heart. We have forgotten how to live appropriately in community - caring for one another in times of need out of true compassion: the desire of our hearts to make things go more smoothly for them as they were finding and making their own way NOT as a government mandate to "spread the wealth" or put us all on "equal footing". Sadly, we've stopped being a meritocracy and become a people of entitlement. We should be able to enjoy the fruits of our own labors and share with others as we see fit, not work like dogs only to have it given to those who refuse to care for themselves. It is not the government's job to take care of me, but to provide a safe environment by securing and defending our borders so that I can make my own way to success and living the American dream within the means I am able to achieve.
A very great man once said that liberty is never more than one generation away from being just a memory. I refuse to let it be my generation or the one coming after me who gives away our liberty because they were too comfortable & lazy to defend it both from a power hungry government and their own sense of entitlement and refusal to work to both care for themselves as well as to contribute to the greater good of our Nation.
My friend is a journalist and feels that she is completely objective. Apparently not, though, as she berated me for being dramatic and for overreacting. If she were truly objective, she would see ALL the facts and compare them to history and listen to those who have come before us and made those same mistakes. She wouldn't pick and choose who to listen to and who to reference in writing her stories, thus creating unnecessary bias. The neat thing about a free society is that all sorts of opinions can not only be formulated but expressed, supposedly without fear and with the understanding that differences are both welcome and accepted.
Her mindset is all too prevalent in our country. We've chosen to substitute flash for substance, recklessness for responsibility, and selective tolerance for true respect. We've chosen to turn a blind eye to character flaws of those with whom we agree or like and to put the microscope on the flaws of those we don't agree with or dislike for whatever reason. We got into a mess nationally because we are in personal messes. The call for using the mops & buckets given to us in the Constitution and the Bible is in the air. Until the call is answered and the crisis ended, Old Glory will fly on her head at my house and on my profile.
Before I disclose the change and its aftermath, let me set the stage for you:
One of the excuses...er, reasons...I've not kept this blog current is my intense involvement in blocking the passage of the monstrosity known as Obamacare. Obviously, it is now law and I'm working to repeal it. I had hoped this time in our Nation's life wouldn't come, but it has. We are in distress.
On the weekend of the final vote in the House, thousands of citizens converged on the Hill here in DC to speak to their Congressmen and make known their opposition to this legislation. I felt like I was everywhere at once making sure people understood the facts of the legislation, helping people find the offices of their Congressmen, explaining the lobbying process, having civil discussions with the press and other interested parties and comforting people who were hurt by the treatment they received in those offices upon exercising their right to be heard and their duty to hold their leadership accountable. Some of it wasn't pretty.
Throughout the day, I met many dedicated Patriots and two gorgeous Newfoundland dogs, much to Lucy Doxie (my service dog)'s discomfiture.She tends to think she is the only dog that has permission to be anywhere near me. Besides being great at detecting petit mal seizures and alerting me to their impending onset, she's a great ice breaker with people who might not ordinarily talk to me even if she is a little possessive.
Lucy led me that day into an encounter I will never forget. She was walking beside me and suddenly went running up to an older gentleman proudly wearing his military medals and a VFW hat while sitting in the hot sun in his wheelchair. It turns out that he loves dachshunds and as Lucy was receiving what she deemed to be her justly deserved adoration, the man and I began to talk. He was a veteran of World War 2. He'd been in combat and he'd been in the group of soldiers who liberated the death camps in Europe. At the direction of his superior, Ike, he took pictures of the scenes and faces that greeted his unit. When he wasn't taking pictures or helping other soldiers with their photographs, he was busy tending to the people who had managed to survive in those horrific places. He told me it changed him forever by making him more passionate than he ever thought possible about liberty and this nation that espouses it. At the end of our conversation, he looked at me with tears in his eyes and pleaded with me to not let the freedom and liberty for which he had fought so hard, and for which his friends had died, end with my generation. I am tearing up even now as I recall it. One thing he said was along the lines of "Old Glory will be turned on her head at my house until this is stopped." That thought stayed with me all day.
That night when I finally sat down at my computer to check email and play on Facebook, an idea struck me. Our nation was in distress. In military terms, the symbol of distress was to fly the flag upside down. In other words, to "turn Old Glory on her head." So, I changed my profile picture to an image of our beloved flag flying upside down. Interestingly enough, I was not the only person to do so and I'm wondering if the other people who did so on FB and who are flying the flag upside down at their homes and businesses have received as many interesting comments as I have.
Several of my friends have taken it upon themselves to educate me about proper flag etiquette. A side note: it just kills me how the rules of etiquette are trotted out to suit someone's purposes and ignored the rest of the time. Amazing. At any rate, what every single one of those people failed to acknowledge is that our Nation is in CRISIS and my flag was therefore appropriately displayed. We are in DISTRESS, folks. One of my friends even thought flying the flag upside down was a sign of surrender and she asked me for what reason and to what cause I was surrendering. She said she was treading lightly since she couldn't remember if I'd been in the military or not. For someone who knew me in college and lived down the hall from me for a while, her memory sure is short.
This is part of what I said to her:
About the flag, it is absolutely NOT a sign of surrender, but it IS a sign of distress, even as the code says. Our nation is in distress because of the financial and governmental crisis in which we find ourselves.
My childhood dream was to be a West Point cadet who went on to become a General. However, having been born with a mobility impairment that dream was not to be realized (remember that I rode around our college campus in a yellow golf cart because I couldn't walk well?). It is in honor of those who are giving their lives in service and who have sacrificed their lives in service to our country that I fly Old Glory upside down. Many of the veterans and currently serving soldiers that I know are doing the same for all the same reasons. These are serious times and, as such, demand serious measures.
I, too, am a trained and experienced journalist who had her own radio show at one point. I have looked at all sides of the issues we are dealing with as a Nation today. We are not only in a point of national crisis, but also in a point of individual crisis. We've forgotten that actions and choices have consequences, both good and bad. We've forgotten that everything we do as individuals impacts someone else. We've forfeited control over too much of our individual lives to a government that does not have our best interests at heart. We have forgotten how to live appropriately in community - caring for one another in times of need out of true compassion: the desire of our hearts to make things go more smoothly for them as they were finding and making their own way NOT as a government mandate to "spread the wealth" or put us all on "equal footing". Sadly, we've stopped being a meritocracy and become a people of entitlement. We should be able to enjoy the fruits of our own labors and share with others as we see fit, not work like dogs only to have it given to those who refuse to care for themselves. It is not the government's job to take care of me, but to provide a safe environment by securing and defending our borders so that I can make my own way to success and living the American dream within the means I am able to achieve.
A very great man once said that liberty is never more than one generation away from being just a memory. I refuse to let it be my generation or the one coming after me who gives away our liberty because they were too comfortable & lazy to defend it both from a power hungry government and their own sense of entitlement and refusal to work to both care for themselves as well as to contribute to the greater good of our Nation.
My friend is a journalist and feels that she is completely objective. Apparently not, though, as she berated me for being dramatic and for overreacting. If she were truly objective, she would see ALL the facts and compare them to history and listen to those who have come before us and made those same mistakes. She wouldn't pick and choose who to listen to and who to reference in writing her stories, thus creating unnecessary bias. The neat thing about a free society is that all sorts of opinions can not only be formulated but expressed, supposedly without fear and with the understanding that differences are both welcome and accepted.
Her mindset is all too prevalent in our country. We've chosen to substitute flash for substance, recklessness for responsibility, and selective tolerance for true respect. We've chosen to turn a blind eye to character flaws of those with whom we agree or like and to put the microscope on the flaws of those we don't agree with or dislike for whatever reason. We got into a mess nationally because we are in personal messes. The call for using the mops & buckets given to us in the Constitution and the Bible is in the air. Until the call is answered and the crisis ended, Old Glory will fly on her head at my house and on my profile.
Thursday, March 4, 2010
From My Friend Wally, a WW2 Vet
I received this today from my friend, Wally, in the NW who is an 83 year old veteran of World War Two. He has seen history unfold first hand. Please read and then consider the action you must take to save our Nation. We must derail this health care train wreck.
March 4, 2010
Dear concerned friends & family members,
It was necessary to see my family physician because of a re-occurring intestinal infection and was politely informed that the Doctor would no longer accept Medicare or Medicaid patients. She regretted the action saying she will see only those who pay cash up front considering the suspected Health Care Bill likely to be passed further restricting her practice. We have heard more Doctors are now following the same path because Medicare and Medicaid have drastically delayed payments to these Physicians. And people think this Tyrannical plan will reduce costs? NO it will help reduce the senior population that in itself could lessen the demands on all insurances. This is WWII Genocide folks, only the young and fit should survive, the elders must go. I for one do not have the cash therefore I should, for the Patriotic good of the country, commit suicide suggested by none other than VP Joe Biden in a speech a time ago. And here folks is the kicker, Those of you who remember history know that Hitler followed this exact same path to Dictatorship by shoving plan after plan onto the German citizens enough to begin country wide unrest, the exact excuse Hitler wanted to declare Marshall Law thereby installing himself as the supreme ruler. Mr. O is deliberately foisting this Bill on us so he can claim Marshall Law because of the most assuredly unrest (Tea Party people) and many other groups will bring to fore. Ask yourself this question, why is the Congressional Democrats so blatantly supporting this bill knowing full well they would be kicked out of office in the fall elections? They do so because they must know something and that has to be the declaration of Marshall Law that would stop all elections for as long as Mr. O chooses. I hope I am dead wrong in this analysis but, having seen it in Germany and the USSR, it can happen here... Beware Folks!! Freedom is on the brink of being lost for ever.
Come Lord Jesus!
Wally
Wally is a trusted friend of mine. He is a hero. You can take his word to the bank. This email also resonated with me because I am in the same situation. I am on Medicare right now until I find a job. We had to drop our COBRA because we could not afford it. Tony is eligible for student insurance at the seminary, but being on Medicare was the only way I could get insurance. I am, too, am having problems finding and keeping doctors because of the Medicare situation. There is a possibility that I will not be able to have the surgery I am due to have on Wednesday of next week because of the billing issue. I will find out on Monday when I go have my pre-op exam.
Please, please please contact your elected officials and ask them to please block this legislation. To be honest, I fear for Wally's life...and my own... if it passes into law and is unable to be repealed quickly enough, if at all. I want to continue to roll along.
Melissa
March 4, 2010
Dear concerned friends & family members,
It was necessary to see my family physician because of a re-occurring intestinal infection and was politely informed that the Doctor would no longer accept Medicare or Medicaid patients. She regretted the action saying she will see only those who pay cash up front considering the suspected Health Care Bill likely to be passed further restricting her practice. We have heard more Doctors are now following the same path because Medicare and Medicaid have drastically delayed payments to these Physicians. And people think this Tyrannical plan will reduce costs? NO it will help reduce the senior population that in itself could lessen the demands on all insurances. This is WWII Genocide folks, only the young and fit should survive, the elders must go. I for one do not have the cash therefore I should, for the Patriotic good of the country, commit suicide suggested by none other than VP Joe Biden in a speech a time ago. And here folks is the kicker, Those of you who remember history know that Hitler followed this exact same path to Dictatorship by shoving plan after plan onto the German citizens enough to begin country wide unrest, the exact excuse Hitler wanted to declare Marshall Law thereby installing himself as the supreme ruler. Mr. O is deliberately foisting this Bill on us so he can claim Marshall Law because of the most assuredly unrest (Tea Party people) and many other groups will bring to fore. Ask yourself this question, why is the Congressional Democrats so blatantly supporting this bill knowing full well they would be kicked out of office in the fall elections? They do so because they must know something and that has to be the declaration of Marshall Law that would stop all elections for as long as Mr. O chooses. I hope I am dead wrong in this analysis but, having seen it in Germany and the USSR, it can happen here... Beware Folks!! Freedom is on the brink of being lost for ever.
Come Lord Jesus!
Wally
Wally is a trusted friend of mine. He is a hero. You can take his word to the bank. This email also resonated with me because I am in the same situation. I am on Medicare right now until I find a job. We had to drop our COBRA because we could not afford it. Tony is eligible for student insurance at the seminary, but being on Medicare was the only way I could get insurance. I am, too, am having problems finding and keeping doctors because of the Medicare situation. There is a possibility that I will not be able to have the surgery I am due to have on Wednesday of next week because of the billing issue. I will find out on Monday when I go have my pre-op exam.
Please, please please contact your elected officials and ask them to please block this legislation. To be honest, I fear for Wally's life...and my own... if it passes into law and is unable to be repealed quickly enough, if at all. I want to continue to roll along.
Melissa
Friday, November 13, 2009
ACK! ACK! ACK!
Ok. So. I'm really bad at this blogging thing, apparently. I don't know when my next post will be, but I can say that I will write much more than the few lines I am now posting.
Night, night!
Night, night!
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Sunday of Rest
The weather here in DC has been lousy and Tony is just finishing midterms. So, we made a decision to stay home today and worship here. We listened to a sermon on line after sleeping until 2pm. Yes, I said 2pm. It was fabulous. I actually feel rested and ready to take on the week. My rested feeling isn't just physical, it is also emotional. Finally, I feel like I am moving away from the grief and anger that has encompassed me this week. Or, maybe it has been surrounding me for a while now, building with each recent loss. At any rate, I feel peaceful, rested.
I have a feeling Tony is going to drag me off to bed soon, but I wanted to pose this thought: what do you need to do to heal? What do you need to do to find peace and rest? Do what you need to do.
Oh, and I promise that I will finish filling you in this week on what has gone on over the last few months.
Roll On.
I have a feeling Tony is going to drag me off to bed soon, but I wanted to pose this thought: what do you need to do to heal? What do you need to do to find peace and rest? Do what you need to do.
Oh, and I promise that I will finish filling you in this week on what has gone on over the last few months.
Roll On.
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Maybe I Should've Stayed Off the Computer
Last week, I signed off after writing half a blog to watch The Amazing Race. It's one of my favorite shows and I try not to miss it. During a commercial break, Tony asked me to sign on to look up something. I did and couldn't resist checking my Face Book page in the process (I'm totally addicted!). What I found has kept me spinning ever since...to the point that I didn't even finish catching you up on what's been going on for the last three months.
A dear friend was killed on October 9th in a cycling accident in Mississippi on the Natchez Trace. He, another friend and I were known as the Triumvent (can't spell!), a fancy name for three musketeers. I am the only one left of the three of us. The other guy, Devereaux, died during Christmas week of 2007. Calling Dev's wife, Nora, to tell her about David's death was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I don't like to be the bearer of bad news and this was especially hard given how close our friendships had been. She and I bawled like babies on the phone together. I know it must have felt like loosing her husband all over again on some level. Some of my best memories of the 90s are sitting at Nora's kitchen table doing political strategy work with David and Deveraux.
Robert Fulghum has written that dress parades such as weddings, funerals, christenings, etc., bring out all the worst behaviors in us all, especially among family members. David's death has been no exception. David went through a very acrimonious divorce several years ago, right about the time I was falling in love with and marrying my husband, Tony. David was engaged to be remarried early next year to the love of his life, Cindy, who is crushed. I'm crushed for her. David was happier than I've ever seen him when he with her. At any rate, the ex-wife has managed to make all of this all about her. She's playing the grieving widow. Talk about lack of respect and an unwillingness to put the past in the past.
David's son called me to tell me about the funeral arrangements and we laughed and cried together about his Dad the good times we'd all shared. Less than 2 hours later, I received an email from the ex-wife (she found me through FB...it's a double edged sword, sigh) informing me that I was unwelcome at "her husband's" funeral because she didn't want me there.
I wrote back and quietly let her know that we had no intention of attending because of work and school schedules. I also expressed my sympathy for her children and David's fiancee. I finished the email by also expressing my shock that she had inserted herself into a series of events that really had nothing to do with her beyond her role as the mother of grieving adult children. I summarily received a phone call from the same son with whom I'd laughed and cried just the day before. He basically threatened me with bodily harm if I came within 100 feet of Cindy, him, his siblings, or mother ever again. I could hear his mother coaching him in the background. Tony didn't take well to this, so they would also be well served to leave me alone as well.
I'm not sure who I feel worse for: his parents because they've lost their only child, his fiancee because she's caught up in all this, or the kids because they've lost their dad and are trying to balance grieving with dealing with their narcissistic mother.
We live in a fallen, broken world and things happen.
I'll miss my friend. I'll miss his laughter and infectious zest for life. It's one more reason to be excited about Heaven.
I promise to fill you in on the rest of the last three months later. That's just what's gone on this week. Drama and tears and such. I'm done with it.
Sleep well, sweet prince.
A dear friend was killed on October 9th in a cycling accident in Mississippi on the Natchez Trace. He, another friend and I were known as the Triumvent (can't spell!), a fancy name for three musketeers. I am the only one left of the three of us. The other guy, Devereaux, died during Christmas week of 2007. Calling Dev's wife, Nora, to tell her about David's death was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I don't like to be the bearer of bad news and this was especially hard given how close our friendships had been. She and I bawled like babies on the phone together. I know it must have felt like loosing her husband all over again on some level. Some of my best memories of the 90s are sitting at Nora's kitchen table doing political strategy work with David and Deveraux.
Robert Fulghum has written that dress parades such as weddings, funerals, christenings, etc., bring out all the worst behaviors in us all, especially among family members. David's death has been no exception. David went through a very acrimonious divorce several years ago, right about the time I was falling in love with and marrying my husband, Tony. David was engaged to be remarried early next year to the love of his life, Cindy, who is crushed. I'm crushed for her. David was happier than I've ever seen him when he with her. At any rate, the ex-wife has managed to make all of this all about her. She's playing the grieving widow. Talk about lack of respect and an unwillingness to put the past in the past.
David's son called me to tell me about the funeral arrangements and we laughed and cried together about his Dad the good times we'd all shared. Less than 2 hours later, I received an email from the ex-wife (she found me through FB...it's a double edged sword, sigh) informing me that I was unwelcome at "her husband's" funeral because she didn't want me there.
I wrote back and quietly let her know that we had no intention of attending because of work and school schedules. I also expressed my sympathy for her children and David's fiancee. I finished the email by also expressing my shock that she had inserted herself into a series of events that really had nothing to do with her beyond her role as the mother of grieving adult children. I summarily received a phone call from the same son with whom I'd laughed and cried just the day before. He basically threatened me with bodily harm if I came within 100 feet of Cindy, him, his siblings, or mother ever again. I could hear his mother coaching him in the background. Tony didn't take well to this, so they would also be well served to leave me alone as well.
I'm not sure who I feel worse for: his parents because they've lost their only child, his fiancee because she's caught up in all this, or the kids because they've lost their dad and are trying to balance grieving with dealing with their narcissistic mother.
We live in a fallen, broken world and things happen.
I'll miss my friend. I'll miss his laughter and infectious zest for life. It's one more reason to be excited about Heaven.
I promise to fill you in on the rest of the last three months later. That's just what's gone on this week. Drama and tears and such. I'm done with it.
Sleep well, sweet prince.
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Coming up for air
My Goodness! It's been a while.
Right after my last post in July, I was hired by Freedomworks, the national sponsor of the 912 March (check out www.freedomworks.org). My job was to manage the 400 people who signed up to volunteer for the March as marshals, runners, gophers, medics, etc. To say the least, I've been a little busy. :) My last day there was towards the end of September and I have been either sleeping, doing housework, writing thank you notes, interviewing or just plain staring off into space. Oh, and let's not forget TETRIS.
At any rate, it has been quite the ride over the last three months. I probably should have sold tickets and would have if I had known at the outset how things were going to be. I wouldn't have traded one single second of it. Not one. Not for anything.
It all started quite innocently, as most things of consequence do. I heard about the March, that it was going to be in DC and that they needed help. So, I went a step beyond filling out the on line information. I called the Freedomworks office and spoke to Nan. She asked me to come in and meet with her and a guy named Brendan. So, a few days later, I did. I told them that since I was in the area I wanted to be involved in any way I could be useful. When they found out that I had experience with managing volunteers and logistics, I saw a look pass between the two of them and a "Eureka" sense sort of flashed through the air. That was a Thursday. I moved into my office that same afternoon, took the next day (Friday) to get things in place here at the house, and then on Monday, Lucy and I hit the ground running.
The first decision: what to call me. I was too old, technically, to be an intern so they settled on the title of Fellow. I liked it. Tony told me not to call myself a "good fellow" for obvious reasons. Sheltered little me had to have it explained to her. Sigh. If you're as clueless as I was, check out the Godfather movies. Things should be pretty clear after that.
I went around chirping, "I'm gonna be a FELLA!" I'm sure the whole office wondered exactly who had taken up residence in the office down the hall. My little dog and I fit in quickly and pretty seamlessly with the rest of the team. In spite of my wackiness, they couldn't have been more welcoming.
Then came the baptism by cyber fire. For the first few days, we just couldn't seem to get my internet access going so I could communicate with the rest of the office. It's apparently a rite of passage for all newcomers at FW.
All finally synced and the work piled on. Not only was I fielding volunteers, I was helping people find out how to arrange transportation from their area and such things. I met some of the coolest people.
You know what? It's time for The Amazing Race. The rest of the story will just have to wait until later.
Roll on.
M
Right after my last post in July, I was hired by Freedomworks, the national sponsor of the 912 March (check out www.freedomworks.org). My job was to manage the 400 people who signed up to volunteer for the March as marshals, runners, gophers, medics, etc. To say the least, I've been a little busy. :) My last day there was towards the end of September and I have been either sleeping, doing housework, writing thank you notes, interviewing or just plain staring off into space. Oh, and let's not forget TETRIS.
At any rate, it has been quite the ride over the last three months. I probably should have sold tickets and would have if I had known at the outset how things were going to be. I wouldn't have traded one single second of it. Not one. Not for anything.
It all started quite innocently, as most things of consequence do. I heard about the March, that it was going to be in DC and that they needed help. So, I went a step beyond filling out the on line information. I called the Freedomworks office and spoke to Nan. She asked me to come in and meet with her and a guy named Brendan. So, a few days later, I did. I told them that since I was in the area I wanted to be involved in any way I could be useful. When they found out that I had experience with managing volunteers and logistics, I saw a look pass between the two of them and a "Eureka" sense sort of flashed through the air. That was a Thursday. I moved into my office that same afternoon, took the next day (Friday) to get things in place here at the house, and then on Monday, Lucy and I hit the ground running.
The first decision: what to call me. I was too old, technically, to be an intern so they settled on the title of Fellow. I liked it. Tony told me not to call myself a "good fellow" for obvious reasons. Sheltered little me had to have it explained to her. Sigh. If you're as clueless as I was, check out the Godfather movies. Things should be pretty clear after that.
I went around chirping, "I'm gonna be a FELLA!" I'm sure the whole office wondered exactly who had taken up residence in the office down the hall. My little dog and I fit in quickly and pretty seamlessly with the rest of the team. In spite of my wackiness, they couldn't have been more welcoming.
Then came the baptism by cyber fire. For the first few days, we just couldn't seem to get my internet access going so I could communicate with the rest of the office. It's apparently a rite of passage for all newcomers at FW.
All finally synced and the work piled on. Not only was I fielding volunteers, I was helping people find out how to arrange transportation from their area and such things. I met some of the coolest people.
You know what? It's time for The Amazing Race. The rest of the story will just have to wait until later.
Roll on.
M
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Is Value Lost in Translation?
WOW! It's been 18 days since I posted. As usual, things are happening very fast here in DC and it's hard to keep up and to not get lost in the shuffle.
Health care is the hot topic right now and I've been following the developments closely and attending hearings on the Hill. Frankly, I'm not liking much of what I'm hearing. Universal health care is a good idea in principle, but it is very tricky to work out in real life without someone getting the short end of the stick.
Before we go any further, let me say this: Yes, I have read the WHOLE bill. THE WHOLE THING! ALL 100+ pages of it!
My eyes are tired and I need new glasses, but I did it. It made for some really "interesting" reading. I felt almost as if I were reading an early 20th century writing from someone in Germany about eugenics. Rather than focusing on healthy life styles and treatability of various conditions and diseases, it's all about cutting costs. It's all about illegal aliens getting free health care at tax payer's expense. It's all about the government telling doctors how to practice medicine. They will be forced to do procedures that are against their consciences and, I might add, against the meaning of The Hippocratic Oath to which every physician ascribes. It's about end of life issues that should be left up to God, like when a person is going to die. It's alarming stuff.
The President stood up in front of an open meeting with the AARP and stated that much of what has people, especially senior citizens and people with disabilities, alarmed has been lost in translation. What does this mean? Does this mean that the legislation was written in some sort of code that only the people that wrote it understand? Does this mean that those same people think that Americans are so trusting that they will swallow anything the government throws at them? What does it mean?!
To me, when something is lost in translation, it means that it was spoken in one language and when rewritten or spoken in another language some of the meaning is lost. It does not mean that the words suddenly take on different meanings in the same language depending on the audience.
All sorts of things get lost in translation. My husband and I loose stuff in translation with each other all the time. I speak Female and he speaks Caveman. We have our share of misunderstandings but are able to work through them with God's help and a choice to not let it fester when there's a splinter in the skin of US.
There is a provision in this bill that would create a regulation within socialized medicine, including what is already Medicare/Medicaid, that a person who is chronically ill, disabled, or elderly will be interviewed every 5 years to determine if they need to commit suicide. It says "counseling sessions" will take place. In plain English, it means that if you are too expensive to maintain, you will be helped to end your life whether you want to or not.
Getting back to the President's little conference. After being asked point blank what that section meant, he hemmed and hawed and admitted that he'd not read the legislation. This from a man who promised to post all pending legislation on the internet so everyone could read it, understand it and advise their Congressmen how they wanted them to vote.
After hemming and hawing some more, he said something along the lines of this: I really think this has been misunderstood. End of life issues are directives such as a living will, power of attorney, and the like.
Excuse me?
It says in plain English (they didn't even try to dress it up with political speak) that the counseling sessions will happen and what will be discussed. It doesn't use the word euthanasia, but it does discuss assisted suicide. It also discusses rationing health care and people besides you and your doctor making decisions about your health care and, ultimately, your life.
I am very proud of the Republicans and Blue Dog Democrats who have stood firm and not allowed the bill out of committee to the House floor for a vote. Hopefully, this will be the case until the gavel is down for the August recess. If the Congress votes the way that Mrs. Pelosi and Mr. Obama want them to, there will be a revolt in the ranks and the midterm elections of 2010 will be UGLY. People, once they truly understand what is in this legislation are going to be furious and vote to replace those who voted for it with better representation.
The bigger thing lost in translation here is the value of every life that comes into being. Everyone has something to contribute and something to teach. The elderly are to be honored and listened to. They are to be cared for, not discarded as useless millstones. Those with chronic illness should not be put to death because they are sick. Find a cure...or a way to treat the illness so they can get on with their lives. People who are disabled may communicate differently, they may move differently or they may not see things visually as others do. Still, they have something to offer. The focus of our health care system should be on promoting health lifestyles and treating diseases as they come up. A child shouldn't be euthanized because of being born with a disability. The parent shouldn't be sterilized because they fathered or gave birth to a child with a disability.
The Founding Fathers of this country understood that life was precious in all its forms. The founding documents of this country include statements like, "the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness." They believed in a culture of life, not expedience or survival of the fittest. To this day, those concepts that are available to be read in black and white, braille, or on line are still clearly understood. The meanings of their words and the values they espouse have not been lost in translation or changed over time.
So, then, how is it that a piece of legislation can be misunderstood when the words are in plain English? Could it be that the meaning hasn't been lost in translation and this change that the majority voted to adopt in November of 2008 is not what it was thought to be? Was something that was misunderstood in the first place? Or are blind eyes being turned to the reality of what that change means? Are we choosing to loose the translation?
All I know is this. Every single person ever created has some sort of value. The question asked should be "what does this life have to offer, no matter how large or small?" The question should NOT be "how much is it going to cost to sustain this life?" The government's job is to protect its citizens, not kill them when they get too expensive.
It is a matter of perspective, not a translation problem.
Health care is the hot topic right now and I've been following the developments closely and attending hearings on the Hill. Frankly, I'm not liking much of what I'm hearing. Universal health care is a good idea in principle, but it is very tricky to work out in real life without someone getting the short end of the stick.
Before we go any further, let me say this: Yes, I have read the WHOLE bill. THE WHOLE THING! ALL 100+ pages of it!
My eyes are tired and I need new glasses, but I did it. It made for some really "interesting" reading. I felt almost as if I were reading an early 20th century writing from someone in Germany about eugenics. Rather than focusing on healthy life styles and treatability of various conditions and diseases, it's all about cutting costs. It's all about illegal aliens getting free health care at tax payer's expense. It's all about the government telling doctors how to practice medicine. They will be forced to do procedures that are against their consciences and, I might add, against the meaning of The Hippocratic Oath to which every physician ascribes. It's about end of life issues that should be left up to God, like when a person is going to die. It's alarming stuff.
The President stood up in front of an open meeting with the AARP and stated that much of what has people, especially senior citizens and people with disabilities, alarmed has been lost in translation. What does this mean? Does this mean that the legislation was written in some sort of code that only the people that wrote it understand? Does this mean that those same people think that Americans are so trusting that they will swallow anything the government throws at them? What does it mean?!
To me, when something is lost in translation, it means that it was spoken in one language and when rewritten or spoken in another language some of the meaning is lost. It does not mean that the words suddenly take on different meanings in the same language depending on the audience.
All sorts of things get lost in translation. My husband and I loose stuff in translation with each other all the time. I speak Female and he speaks Caveman. We have our share of misunderstandings but are able to work through them with God's help and a choice to not let it fester when there's a splinter in the skin of US.
There is a provision in this bill that would create a regulation within socialized medicine, including what is already Medicare/Medicaid, that a person who is chronically ill, disabled, or elderly will be interviewed every 5 years to determine if they need to commit suicide. It says "counseling sessions" will take place. In plain English, it means that if you are too expensive to maintain, you will be helped to end your life whether you want to or not.
Getting back to the President's little conference. After being asked point blank what that section meant, he hemmed and hawed and admitted that he'd not read the legislation. This from a man who promised to post all pending legislation on the internet so everyone could read it, understand it and advise their Congressmen how they wanted them to vote.
After hemming and hawing some more, he said something along the lines of this: I really think this has been misunderstood. End of life issues are directives such as a living will, power of attorney, and the like.
Excuse me?
It says in plain English (they didn't even try to dress it up with political speak) that the counseling sessions will happen and what will be discussed. It doesn't use the word euthanasia, but it does discuss assisted suicide. It also discusses rationing health care and people besides you and your doctor making decisions about your health care and, ultimately, your life.
I am very proud of the Republicans and Blue Dog Democrats who have stood firm and not allowed the bill out of committee to the House floor for a vote. Hopefully, this will be the case until the gavel is down for the August recess. If the Congress votes the way that Mrs. Pelosi and Mr. Obama want them to, there will be a revolt in the ranks and the midterm elections of 2010 will be UGLY. People, once they truly understand what is in this legislation are going to be furious and vote to replace those who voted for it with better representation.
The bigger thing lost in translation here is the value of every life that comes into being. Everyone has something to contribute and something to teach. The elderly are to be honored and listened to. They are to be cared for, not discarded as useless millstones. Those with chronic illness should not be put to death because they are sick. Find a cure...or a way to treat the illness so they can get on with their lives. People who are disabled may communicate differently, they may move differently or they may not see things visually as others do. Still, they have something to offer. The focus of our health care system should be on promoting health lifestyles and treating diseases as they come up. A child shouldn't be euthanized because of being born with a disability. The parent shouldn't be sterilized because they fathered or gave birth to a child with a disability.
The Founding Fathers of this country understood that life was precious in all its forms. The founding documents of this country include statements like, "the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness." They believed in a culture of life, not expedience or survival of the fittest. To this day, those concepts that are available to be read in black and white, braille, or on line are still clearly understood. The meanings of their words and the values they espouse have not been lost in translation or changed over time.
So, then, how is it that a piece of legislation can be misunderstood when the words are in plain English? Could it be that the meaning hasn't been lost in translation and this change that the majority voted to adopt in November of 2008 is not what it was thought to be? Was something that was misunderstood in the first place? Or are blind eyes being turned to the reality of what that change means? Are we choosing to loose the translation?
All I know is this. Every single person ever created has some sort of value. The question asked should be "what does this life have to offer, no matter how large or small?" The question should NOT be "how much is it going to cost to sustain this life?" The government's job is to protect its citizens, not kill them when they get too expensive.
It is a matter of perspective, not a translation problem.
Saturday, July 11, 2009
Simply Wonderful
It's just after 2:30 on Sunday AM as I write this. I'm all wound up but need to go to bed. The weenie dog is here beside me sleeping peacefully and Tony is in the shower.
I took stock of my life today. God has been good to me. I have a wonderful apartment in a great city...the neighborhood could be a little safer, but I know that God is protecting me at all times...and I know how not to be take stupid chances or put myself in danger. We have a great church that we love and where we are loved and shepherded. Tony is doing well in seminary and has been able to work many extra hours this summer at his job that is part time during the school year. I am slowly making a new circle of friends but still missing my two best friends: one in NYC and one from childhood (Kindergarten, believe it or not) who now lives in Montgomery, Alabama. The visits are few and far between.
I do still need a job. I've got a great lead and am in process, so I won't talk about it too much here. Let's just say that it is tailor made for me.
We are living on a shoe string, but our bills are paid. We are eating...mostly hamburger instead of fillet mignon, but it is nutritious.
We have had many cheap, if not free, dates this Summer because there is always something to do or see here in DC.
We have a life without drama. No family drama, no work drama, no school drama. It's wonderful.
We're both reasonably healthy. Enough said.
We're in love with each other after 7 years of marriage and still LIKE each other, too.
Mostly, though, we serve a great big God who has redeemed us through His Son, Jesus and has filled us with the Holy Spirit.
Yep, life is simply wonderful.
I took stock of my life today. God has been good to me. I have a wonderful apartment in a great city...the neighborhood could be a little safer, but I know that God is protecting me at all times...and I know how not to be take stupid chances or put myself in danger. We have a great church that we love and where we are loved and shepherded. Tony is doing well in seminary and has been able to work many extra hours this summer at his job that is part time during the school year. I am slowly making a new circle of friends but still missing my two best friends: one in NYC and one from childhood (Kindergarten, believe it or not) who now lives in Montgomery, Alabama. The visits are few and far between.
I do still need a job. I've got a great lead and am in process, so I won't talk about it too much here. Let's just say that it is tailor made for me.
We are living on a shoe string, but our bills are paid. We are eating...mostly hamburger instead of fillet mignon, but it is nutritious.
We have had many cheap, if not free, dates this Summer because there is always something to do or see here in DC.
We have a life without drama. No family drama, no work drama, no school drama. It's wonderful.
We're both reasonably healthy. Enough said.
We're in love with each other after 7 years of marriage and still LIKE each other, too.
Mostly, though, we serve a great big God who has redeemed us through His Son, Jesus and has filled us with the Holy Spirit.
Yep, life is simply wonderful.
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
8, er, 10 days a week!
Last time I wrote, I'd just found out about the suicide of a friend's daughter and attended the visitation. It was a painful afternoon. Blogging about it helped, but I have to admit that I was still hurting for my friend and her family. Also, I was quite concerned about the funeral. Would the pastors who were officiating be honest, or would they sweep the ugly truth under the rug in favor of platitudes?
An aside here: it was not a funeral, but a memorial service. There is a distinct difference; the terms are NOT interchangeable. At a funeral, the body is present in a casket. A funeral is followed by a burial, which may or may not be open to nonfamily members. A memorial service is held without the presence of a body in a casket. The burial has either already taken place before the service or the body has been cremated.
Christy's memorial service was such a blessing to be a part of. Two of the pastors from our church officiated, and they were clear about the fact that Christy committed suicide and the events that led up to it. They were clear about the fact that suicide is not the unpardonable sin, nor is it a worse sin than any other sin. The Gospel was presented in such a way as to be easily understood. I was proud of Christy's Mom and sister for their insistence that the truth be not hidden. I was even prouder of my pastors for the sensitive, compassionate and truthful way they addressed those present. It was truly a holy moment.
Perhaps the most moving part of the service, at least for me, were the eulogies give by Christy's Mom and her twin sister. Becky shared in a way that only a sister can and gave us much insight into the person that was her lifelong best friend. Claudia shared other stories that gave us insight into the pain that a parent experiences when they know their child is walking the path that Christy walked. There was much laughter among the many tears shed.
Christy herself shared at her own funeral via letters and journals that she left behind. What a poignant inside into this precious young woman's tortured but beautiful mind. I wish I'd truly known her.
After the service, the family received visitors in the lovely fellowship hall at the church. The food was provided by the church and the ladies of the church hostessed all of the guests. It was a blessing to see the church supporting the family in this way.
Claudia continued to be true to herself and allow the tears to come when they wished rather than stifling herself. Becky was the same. I was proud of them both. I was even prouder of how much those around them reached out in comfort.
At the reception, I began to understand how healing happens. It sneaks in quietly in little moments. I began to see some purpose in this tragic circumstance. I had the honor of sitting around with Christy's friends and assure them that yes, the pastor was telling the truth...suicide is no worse than any other sin. It is covered by the shed blood of Jesus like any other. They were eligible to be covered by that blood if they would embrace the gift of Christ's salvation. It was amazing news to several of them.
The memory of the day that stands out the most for me, though, was my time with Becky, Christy's twin sister. She'd obviously been wrung out emotionally and I went into protective "big sister" mode. I stayed close while her husband greeted people and helped her Mom.
At first, I was in my wheelchair and Becky, who is tall, was crouched down beside me talking. Then, she sat down on the floor. She looked so comfortable that I decided to join her on the floor. Lucy took advantage and hopped into my chair. Tony came in from changing his clothes for work to find the dog in the wheelchair and two sniffling women on the floor, sitting Indian style. The conversation, the setting, the tears, the normalcy of girl talk while sitting casually...they all led to a beginning of healing. That is how God works...in little moments, not just in big grand happenings.
The rest of the week passed in a blur of meetings with the tax attorney (yep, we're being audited, but almost have it resolved), grocery shopping and celebrations of July 4th. I tried to take it all in, but found myself again focusing on the little moments that made up the larger chunk of time.
It's late and I'm tired, but I want to close with one final thought: Don't miss the small moments. It's when God's still small Voice often speaks the most clearly.
Rolling Along....
An aside here: it was not a funeral, but a memorial service. There is a distinct difference; the terms are NOT interchangeable. At a funeral, the body is present in a casket. A funeral is followed by a burial, which may or may not be open to nonfamily members. A memorial service is held without the presence of a body in a casket. The burial has either already taken place before the service or the body has been cremated.
Christy's memorial service was such a blessing to be a part of. Two of the pastors from our church officiated, and they were clear about the fact that Christy committed suicide and the events that led up to it. They were clear about the fact that suicide is not the unpardonable sin, nor is it a worse sin than any other sin. The Gospel was presented in such a way as to be easily understood. I was proud of Christy's Mom and sister for their insistence that the truth be not hidden. I was even prouder of my pastors for the sensitive, compassionate and truthful way they addressed those present. It was truly a holy moment.
Perhaps the most moving part of the service, at least for me, were the eulogies give by Christy's Mom and her twin sister. Becky shared in a way that only a sister can and gave us much insight into the person that was her lifelong best friend. Claudia shared other stories that gave us insight into the pain that a parent experiences when they know their child is walking the path that Christy walked. There was much laughter among the many tears shed.
Christy herself shared at her own funeral via letters and journals that she left behind. What a poignant inside into this precious young woman's tortured but beautiful mind. I wish I'd truly known her.
After the service, the family received visitors in the lovely fellowship hall at the church. The food was provided by the church and the ladies of the church hostessed all of the guests. It was a blessing to see the church supporting the family in this way.
Claudia continued to be true to herself and allow the tears to come when they wished rather than stifling herself. Becky was the same. I was proud of them both. I was even prouder of how much those around them reached out in comfort.
At the reception, I began to understand how healing happens. It sneaks in quietly in little moments. I began to see some purpose in this tragic circumstance. I had the honor of sitting around with Christy's friends and assure them that yes, the pastor was telling the truth...suicide is no worse than any other sin. It is covered by the shed blood of Jesus like any other. They were eligible to be covered by that blood if they would embrace the gift of Christ's salvation. It was amazing news to several of them.
The memory of the day that stands out the most for me, though, was my time with Becky, Christy's twin sister. She'd obviously been wrung out emotionally and I went into protective "big sister" mode. I stayed close while her husband greeted people and helped her Mom.
At first, I was in my wheelchair and Becky, who is tall, was crouched down beside me talking. Then, she sat down on the floor. She looked so comfortable that I decided to join her on the floor. Lucy took advantage and hopped into my chair. Tony came in from changing his clothes for work to find the dog in the wheelchair and two sniffling women on the floor, sitting Indian style. The conversation, the setting, the tears, the normalcy of girl talk while sitting casually...they all led to a beginning of healing. That is how God works...in little moments, not just in big grand happenings.
The rest of the week passed in a blur of meetings with the tax attorney (yep, we're being audited, but almost have it resolved), grocery shopping and celebrations of July 4th. I tried to take it all in, but found myself again focusing on the little moments that made up the larger chunk of time.
It's late and I'm tired, but I want to close with one final thought: Don't miss the small moments. It's when God's still small Voice often speaks the most clearly.
Rolling Along....
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Another Day of Rest?
Tony and I are big believers in low key Sundays. We go to church in the morning and then spend the rest of the day just hanging out...usually alone...but sometimes with friends. We either come home and relax before fixing and eating a nice dinner together or we picnic at any one of our favorite spots in DC and then read until it is too dark to see anymore. It's one of my favorite parts our life together.
Today's events have been anything but low key and I wanted to share them and my thoughts about them with you.
Upon arrival at church this morning, I did my usual thing of reading through the bulletin as soon as I sat down while the prelude was being played. I was shocked to find that a friend's daughter had died unexpectedly on Friday. Knowing some of the details of this young woman's life, I was saddened but not surprised to find out after discreet questioning that she had indeed committed suicide.
There are no real answers in this scenario, only broken hearts with many questions.
After church, Tony and I went to the funeral home for the visitation (what people in other parts of the country call the wake. Southerners call it the visitation). In sitting through the afternoon with my friend, I did something unusual. I watched people to see how they were reacting. Usually I'm too busy in that sort of situation making sure everyone has what they need. Playing organizer or hostess seems to be my self assigned role most of the time.
Anyway, I sat back this time and watched. I was interested in the responses. Most people seemed to think they needed to have some sort of special thing to say, ranging from a shared memory or a super spiritual platitude. If they had nothing to share, they seemed to be somewhat afraid to just hug my friend and her surviving daughter (the twin sister of the one who died) or to show their own emotions.
Don't get me wrong. There were many hugs being exchanged. I just saw a reserve in the body language of many people that you don't see if the death has come after a long illness or as the result of an accident of some sort. I wanted to shake a few people and tell them that it was ok to show their own emotions and to sit with my friend in her pain.
The young woman who died was a Christian. She was, in her healthier days, a strong witness for Christ in her workplace. There is no doubt in my mind that she is worshiping at the Throne of God at this very moment. The young woman who died was also mentally ill and on a downward spiral for many months. She had a biological chemical imbalance that led her down this path as a result of voices in her head she could not silence. We could debate the source of the voices all day long, but that's not where I'm going with this, either.
The fact that she was both a Christian and mentally ill creates confusion for a great many people, thus the uncertainty about how to respond. We tend to want things to be neat and tidy and easily addressable. Suicide and mental illness are anything but neat, tidy and easily addressable...especially within the Church.
Many people believe that suicide is the unpardonable sin even though there is no Scriptural basis for such a view. Still others believe that mental illness can be cured simply by being spiritual enough or by doing all the right things that "good Christians" are supposed to do. That's not Scriptural, either. These views result in faulty responses that often add to the pain of the situation rather than help it. People also sometimes seem to be uncomfortable with the emotional pain of another person and therefore shy away rather than coming alongside the hurting soul to walk the valley with them.
I saw the whispered conversations today behind hands. I can imagine what they were about...anything from the flowers to the lovely antique organ on the wall to gossiping about why this young woman had not gotten the help she needed.
I saw the tears in eyes of people as they mirrored the pain in the eyes of my friend. I was proud of my friend for not hiding her own tears...for her honest response to this horrible circumstance.
I heard the prayers for my friend and her surviving daughter and know that God heard them, too. In spite of the broken hearts there was a peace that passes understanding present in that funeral parlor today. It was a thing of beauty in a place of ugliness that is death. Christ walks our dark valleys with us whether we realize it or not.
Even though she left a letter, all of our questions will not be answered this side of Heaven. There will always be "what if" and "if only" and "WHY?" though they will grow less pressing over time. A mother will have to learn not to blame herself or to assign blame to the father and brother that deserted her and her two daughters. A twin sister will have to learn to live without part of herself. If they have any heart at all, the bureaucrats who denied her treatment will have to face their own questions as well.
All of this is messy and untidy and not easily addressed. Here are some hints, though, on how to deal with situations like mine when you don't know what to say or do.
1. Put aside your fear and reach out.
2. Reaching out can be as simple as a quick pat on the shoulder or a card in the mail or an email. Depending on how well you know the person, offer to take them to get professional help if needed and then do not abandon them during their healing process.
3. When you have a friend dealing with depression who is also a Christian, offer to pray with and for them. Don't worry about saying the "right" or "wrong" thing. God will guide your mouth if you ask.
4. Assume nothing. If you haven't been there, you don't know what they are going through.
5. Treat them like you'd treat anyone else who was sick or who had a broken limb. Look them in the eye when you speak and LISTEN when they speak.
6. Include them in activities. Invite them and give them the opportunity to say no. Sure, a person who is depressed can be hard to be around, but it is so important to them to know that someone cares.
7. Remember that it is not about you, but about them.
If you are struggling yourself with thoughts of suicide or other signs of depression or mental illness, please get help. Email me directly at mkortiz317@gmail.com or contact your local house of worship and ask to speak to a pastor or pastoral counselor. If you are in immediate need, go to the nearest ER and tell them you are afraid you will harm yourself if you don't get some help. Ask to speak to a chaplain.
There is no shame in mental illness. It is no different than physical illness. If your leg was broken, you'd seek treatment, right? A broken spirit, soul or heart is no different...it's just not as visible.
My heart aches for my friend as she is walking this valley but I know she is not walking it alone. The same Jesus who walked His own valley and triumphed also walked with me through my valley into triumph. He will walk with her, too.
Today's events have been anything but low key and I wanted to share them and my thoughts about them with you.
Upon arrival at church this morning, I did my usual thing of reading through the bulletin as soon as I sat down while the prelude was being played. I was shocked to find that a friend's daughter had died unexpectedly on Friday. Knowing some of the details of this young woman's life, I was saddened but not surprised to find out after discreet questioning that she had indeed committed suicide.
There are no real answers in this scenario, only broken hearts with many questions.
After church, Tony and I went to the funeral home for the visitation (what people in other parts of the country call the wake. Southerners call it the visitation). In sitting through the afternoon with my friend, I did something unusual. I watched people to see how they were reacting. Usually I'm too busy in that sort of situation making sure everyone has what they need. Playing organizer or hostess seems to be my self assigned role most of the time.
Anyway, I sat back this time and watched. I was interested in the responses. Most people seemed to think they needed to have some sort of special thing to say, ranging from a shared memory or a super spiritual platitude. If they had nothing to share, they seemed to be somewhat afraid to just hug my friend and her surviving daughter (the twin sister of the one who died) or to show their own emotions.
Don't get me wrong. There were many hugs being exchanged. I just saw a reserve in the body language of many people that you don't see if the death has come after a long illness or as the result of an accident of some sort. I wanted to shake a few people and tell them that it was ok to show their own emotions and to sit with my friend in her pain.
The young woman who died was a Christian. She was, in her healthier days, a strong witness for Christ in her workplace. There is no doubt in my mind that she is worshiping at the Throne of God at this very moment. The young woman who died was also mentally ill and on a downward spiral for many months. She had a biological chemical imbalance that led her down this path as a result of voices in her head she could not silence. We could debate the source of the voices all day long, but that's not where I'm going with this, either.
The fact that she was both a Christian and mentally ill creates confusion for a great many people, thus the uncertainty about how to respond. We tend to want things to be neat and tidy and easily addressable. Suicide and mental illness are anything but neat, tidy and easily addressable...especially within the Church.
Many people believe that suicide is the unpardonable sin even though there is no Scriptural basis for such a view. Still others believe that mental illness can be cured simply by being spiritual enough or by doing all the right things that "good Christians" are supposed to do. That's not Scriptural, either. These views result in faulty responses that often add to the pain of the situation rather than help it. People also sometimes seem to be uncomfortable with the emotional pain of another person and therefore shy away rather than coming alongside the hurting soul to walk the valley with them.
I saw the whispered conversations today behind hands. I can imagine what they were about...anything from the flowers to the lovely antique organ on the wall to gossiping about why this young woman had not gotten the help she needed.
I saw the tears in eyes of people as they mirrored the pain in the eyes of my friend. I was proud of my friend for not hiding her own tears...for her honest response to this horrible circumstance.
I heard the prayers for my friend and her surviving daughter and know that God heard them, too. In spite of the broken hearts there was a peace that passes understanding present in that funeral parlor today. It was a thing of beauty in a place of ugliness that is death. Christ walks our dark valleys with us whether we realize it or not.
Even though she left a letter, all of our questions will not be answered this side of Heaven. There will always be "what if" and "if only" and "WHY?" though they will grow less pressing over time. A mother will have to learn not to blame herself or to assign blame to the father and brother that deserted her and her two daughters. A twin sister will have to learn to live without part of herself. If they have any heart at all, the bureaucrats who denied her treatment will have to face their own questions as well.
All of this is messy and untidy and not easily addressed. Here are some hints, though, on how to deal with situations like mine when you don't know what to say or do.
1. Put aside your fear and reach out.
2. Reaching out can be as simple as a quick pat on the shoulder or a card in the mail or an email. Depending on how well you know the person, offer to take them to get professional help if needed and then do not abandon them during their healing process.
3. When you have a friend dealing with depression who is also a Christian, offer to pray with and for them. Don't worry about saying the "right" or "wrong" thing. God will guide your mouth if you ask.
4. Assume nothing. If you haven't been there, you don't know what they are going through.
5. Treat them like you'd treat anyone else who was sick or who had a broken limb. Look them in the eye when you speak and LISTEN when they speak.
6. Include them in activities. Invite them and give them the opportunity to say no. Sure, a person who is depressed can be hard to be around, but it is so important to them to know that someone cares.
7. Remember that it is not about you, but about them.
If you are struggling yourself with thoughts of suicide or other signs of depression or mental illness, please get help. Email me directly at mkortiz317@gmail.com or contact your local house of worship and ask to speak to a pastor or pastoral counselor. If you are in immediate need, go to the nearest ER and tell them you are afraid you will harm yourself if you don't get some help. Ask to speak to a chaplain.
There is no shame in mental illness. It is no different than physical illness. If your leg was broken, you'd seek treatment, right? A broken spirit, soul or heart is no different...it's just not as visible.
My heart aches for my friend as she is walking this valley but I know she is not walking it alone. The same Jesus who walked His own valley and triumphed also walked with me through my valley into triumph. He will walk with her, too.
Friday, June 26, 2009
While I Was Sleeping
I've been home sick with a bladder infection since Wednesday. It's one of the realities of life with catheters. I've slept all day. When I'm sick, I sleep hard, oblivious to the things unfolding around me.
Take yesterday for instance. We'd gotten up early to run to the drugstore. I slept in the car while Tony drove and ran in to pick up the scripts. We came back and I laid back down on the bed (freshly made by the sweet husband person) and slept some more. He didn't even complain that I wrinkled the bed spread. He's a good egg.
Tony says he woke me up before he left for work, but I don't remember it. My first awareness of a world outside of dreamland was a sharp Doxie bark in my ear. She's wonderful for cuddly sleeping when I'm sick or while reading a book. She's the best until she's tired of being on the big bed or of sitting still. Then, the barking starts. She climbed up on my shoulder put her little snout right in my ear and barked. Apparently she was hungry, thirsty AND needed to go out.
This sleeping hard thing is a recurring theme of my life. We have family pictures of me asleep after holiday meals in the most awkward of situations and positions. When I was in college, a group of my friends waited for me to fall asleep on a couch and then carried the couch all around the campus quad until they found the perfect spot for it and left me there until I woke up the next morning. My husband has learned not to count on me for navigational help since I'm always asleep before we ever leave the District.
The sleep is refreshing and comforting, but I miss things as a result. I've apparently missed out on heated family discussions, loud Scrabble games, entire sporting events, movies, sermons (yes, I admit it...I've slept in church!), and all sorts of beautiful scenery along the side of the road.
Yesterday while I was sleeping all sorts of things happened. Legislation was debated less than a mile from here. People's futures were decided based on votes on said legislation. Dogs were walked. Babies were born. Tears were shed. Laughter was heard. Games were played.
Yesterday while I was sleeping, America...and the world...lost two pop icons. This morning, it was announced that Farrah Fawcett lost her lengthy battle with cancer. This afternoon, right around rush hour here on the East Coast, Michael Jackson died of an apparent heart attack.
I was in middle school when the Farrah look became popular. I, like every other middle school girl, begged for the LOOK that would define hair styles for a generation or more. My hair was duly cut by my best friend's Mom and I learned to fix it in the "winged" style.
I wonder if the hair spray industry sponsored Farrah's career? They certainly profited from it. My love affair with hair spray came to a screeching halt not long after college graduation. My hair was big enough on its own, thank you, without the added laquer to make it JUMBO. It took me a little longer to get over my perm fixation, but I digress....
The first time I remember being aware of Michael Jackson was in the 8th grade when I heard him being discussed in very hushed yet awed tones during lunch at the private Christian school I attended. We'd all signed contracts that we'd not listen to "that" type of music so I was floored by the audacity of the girls around me to even mention anything that wasn't on the approved list. I, after all, was a champ at sticking to the approved list. I sat there with my Farrah hair and wondered who this marvel of falsetto and fabulous dance moves might be all the while wearing a scowl of disapproval.
By the time I reached high school & then college, I'd outgrown my self righteousness to a point of being able to enjoy the Jackson 5 and Michael himself. While I didn't own a red leather jacket with mesh trim, I had a ton of friends who did. We all wore a glove on one hand (I wore one on both hands, but they were at least different colors so I sort of fit in) and my nephew was a champ at the moon walk.
Farrah Fawcett encouraged me with her bravery in the face of that horrible thing called cancer as well as her willingness to face it honestly and transparently. She inspired me with her beauty and willingness to chase her dreams. She was willing to allow herself to be seen as a real person with real suffering...to be a living Velveteen Rabbit.
Michael Jackson sang songs that I associate with many of my most treasured memories. I vividly remember my friends recreating the moves from Thriller at a dance after a basketball game during my senior year in HS. I remember the searing indignation I felt after being "dissed" by a boy upon whom I had a major crush that was underscored by the lyrics of Say, Say, Say. I remember swaying to We Are the World with my fellow summer missionaries at our commissioning ceremony at Georgetown College. I remember knowing with certainty after hearing Man in the Mirror for the first time that I'd always think of it as a secular hymn about generosity and caring about those around you...about living out the Gospel. I remember dancing with one of the best boyfriends ever to I'll Be There (Mariah Carey's recording of Michael's song) and thinking that no one had ever been more in love. He's married to someone else now, which I'm sure makes my husband, the real love of my life, very happy.
Michael Jackson, while a musical genius, is also one of the most tragic figures of pop culture. I truly believe that his odd life style hallmarked by the surroundings at Neverland Ranch were the cries of a broken hearted little boy who was exploited by his father and never knew what it was to be loved simply for himself. Hopefully the parents of today's child actors and singers will figure out that their egos are less important than the happiness, success and normal development of their children. I have to wonder what his father must be thinking now. I can bet he isn't wishing he'd cut a better deal on the recording contracts.
Farrah Fawcett, while beautiful and inspiring, also struggled with being loved for herself. It took her being on her deathbed for the man she loved to propose to her. I can't imagine how that must have felt. The message: don't wait until the last minute to commit, to express your love, to live a life with the person who holds your heart. You never know when the last minute will be irrevocably gone.
Life in the fish bowl of celebrity is hard.
Life lived with a great talent is exhausting.
Life without God is a constant search for meaning.
While I was sleeping, life was happening.
Take yesterday for instance. We'd gotten up early to run to the drugstore. I slept in the car while Tony drove and ran in to pick up the scripts. We came back and I laid back down on the bed (freshly made by the sweet husband person) and slept some more. He didn't even complain that I wrinkled the bed spread. He's a good egg.
Tony says he woke me up before he left for work, but I don't remember it. My first awareness of a world outside of dreamland was a sharp Doxie bark in my ear. She's wonderful for cuddly sleeping when I'm sick or while reading a book. She's the best until she's tired of being on the big bed or of sitting still. Then, the barking starts. She climbed up on my shoulder put her little snout right in my ear and barked. Apparently she was hungry, thirsty AND needed to go out.
This sleeping hard thing is a recurring theme of my life. We have family pictures of me asleep after holiday meals in the most awkward of situations and positions. When I was in college, a group of my friends waited for me to fall asleep on a couch and then carried the couch all around the campus quad until they found the perfect spot for it and left me there until I woke up the next morning. My husband has learned not to count on me for navigational help since I'm always asleep before we ever leave the District.
The sleep is refreshing and comforting, but I miss things as a result. I've apparently missed out on heated family discussions, loud Scrabble games, entire sporting events, movies, sermons (yes, I admit it...I've slept in church!), and all sorts of beautiful scenery along the side of the road.
Yesterday while I was sleeping all sorts of things happened. Legislation was debated less than a mile from here. People's futures were decided based on votes on said legislation. Dogs were walked. Babies were born. Tears were shed. Laughter was heard. Games were played.
Yesterday while I was sleeping, America...and the world...lost two pop icons. This morning, it was announced that Farrah Fawcett lost her lengthy battle with cancer. This afternoon, right around rush hour here on the East Coast, Michael Jackson died of an apparent heart attack.
I was in middle school when the Farrah look became popular. I, like every other middle school girl, begged for the LOOK that would define hair styles for a generation or more. My hair was duly cut by my best friend's Mom and I learned to fix it in the "winged" style.
I wonder if the hair spray industry sponsored Farrah's career? They certainly profited from it. My love affair with hair spray came to a screeching halt not long after college graduation. My hair was big enough on its own, thank you, without the added laquer to make it JUMBO. It took me a little longer to get over my perm fixation, but I digress....
The first time I remember being aware of Michael Jackson was in the 8th grade when I heard him being discussed in very hushed yet awed tones during lunch at the private Christian school I attended. We'd all signed contracts that we'd not listen to "that" type of music so I was floored by the audacity of the girls around me to even mention anything that wasn't on the approved list. I, after all, was a champ at sticking to the approved list. I sat there with my Farrah hair and wondered who this marvel of falsetto and fabulous dance moves might be all the while wearing a scowl of disapproval.
By the time I reached high school & then college, I'd outgrown my self righteousness to a point of being able to enjoy the Jackson 5 and Michael himself. While I didn't own a red leather jacket with mesh trim, I had a ton of friends who did. We all wore a glove on one hand (I wore one on both hands, but they were at least different colors so I sort of fit in) and my nephew was a champ at the moon walk.
Farrah Fawcett encouraged me with her bravery in the face of that horrible thing called cancer as well as her willingness to face it honestly and transparently. She inspired me with her beauty and willingness to chase her dreams. She was willing to allow herself to be seen as a real person with real suffering...to be a living Velveteen Rabbit.
Michael Jackson sang songs that I associate with many of my most treasured memories. I vividly remember my friends recreating the moves from Thriller at a dance after a basketball game during my senior year in HS. I remember the searing indignation I felt after being "dissed" by a boy upon whom I had a major crush that was underscored by the lyrics of Say, Say, Say. I remember swaying to We Are the World with my fellow summer missionaries at our commissioning ceremony at Georgetown College. I remember knowing with certainty after hearing Man in the Mirror for the first time that I'd always think of it as a secular hymn about generosity and caring about those around you...about living out the Gospel. I remember dancing with one of the best boyfriends ever to I'll Be There (Mariah Carey's recording of Michael's song) and thinking that no one had ever been more in love. He's married to someone else now, which I'm sure makes my husband, the real love of my life, very happy.
Michael Jackson, while a musical genius, is also one of the most tragic figures of pop culture. I truly believe that his odd life style hallmarked by the surroundings at Neverland Ranch were the cries of a broken hearted little boy who was exploited by his father and never knew what it was to be loved simply for himself. Hopefully the parents of today's child actors and singers will figure out that their egos are less important than the happiness, success and normal development of their children. I have to wonder what his father must be thinking now. I can bet he isn't wishing he'd cut a better deal on the recording contracts.
Farrah Fawcett, while beautiful and inspiring, also struggled with being loved for herself. It took her being on her deathbed for the man she loved to propose to her. I can't imagine how that must have felt. The message: don't wait until the last minute to commit, to express your love, to live a life with the person who holds your heart. You never know when the last minute will be irrevocably gone.
Life in the fish bowl of celebrity is hard.
Life lived with a great talent is exhausting.
Life without God is a constant search for meaning.
While I was sleeping, life was happening.
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
What if?
The whole city of DC seems to be engaged in the health care debate. You hear about universal health insurance, cost effectiveness, need based treatment, private pay, single pay... AD NAUSEUM! I am already weary of it and we're only at the beginning. If I as a private citizen and health care consumer am already weary of it, what must those on the front lines of the battle be thinking and feeling.
With all this talk of universal coverage and need based treatment and such, something really important is being overlooked: the basic customer service aspect of the health care industry. As a person with chronic health problems, I consider myself a pretty good judge of good customer service in a medical setting. It begins with your first phone call to the provider's office, not with the time you spend with the doctor.
Until the first of May, Tony & I were covered under COBRA. We were paying $1000 a month. Yes, that is one thousand dollars for very excellent coverage for two adults, one reasonably healthy (Tony) and the other an insurance company's nightmare (me). The most important coverage we had was our prescription drug coverage. I did find replacement coverage, but it is a huge hassle to switch everyone's information - have to call the pharmacy, the different doctors' offices and so on. My GP's office did not receive my information for reasons we will get to later. Suffice to say that since Friday of last week, I have been trying to get my four regular scripts established with the new insurance and making sure that Walgreen's had all the information they needed as well.
It is now Wednesday. As of 3pm today things were still not resolved and I had run out of my emergency supply. So, I called my doctor's office for the FIFTH time this week (not to mention the 3 times on Friday). No one seemed to be answering the phone or returning calls left in the voice mail or anything helpful like that. I had reached the end of my patience with everyone involved. So, I decided that I should try to call one more time before just showing up on their doorstep to wait until the situation was resolved.
I didn't feel well and was really cranky by the time I managed to FINALLY get someone on the phone at the GP's office. It went something like this:
Ring riiinnnngggg ringgggggggg (as the phone rang for six consecutive times, I managed to compose myself and decided to be perfectly pleasant towards whomever happened to answer the phone) RIIINNNNGGGGGGGG!!
Finally, a human voice on the other end.
Recptionist: "Hello, Dr. ---'s Office."
Me: "Hello, this is Melissa and I've been trying to reach someone there about the change in my insurance and getting all of my scripts properly transferred."
R: "AND? We're busy here. Send us a fax."
Me: "Ma'am, I did send you a fax. I faxed you, the insurance company faxed you and the pharmacy faxed you. I also left several messages and those calls were not returned, either."
R: "Oh, well...maybe our fax machine is broken. Let me check....yeah, it's broken and has been for about a week."
(picture the color in my cheeks beginning to rise and my voice becoming tight while still being polite)
Me: "I have also left several messages in the voice mail and no one has called me back."
R: "Returning calls is not my responsibility."
Me: Anyway, I am out of meds that I need on a daily basis and the insurance company isn't going to cover them until they receive signed paperwork from your office."
R: "AND?! Well, the answer is simple. Go to the pharmacy and pay for them out of pocket. This is so not my problem."
When I proceded to explain to her that I couldn't afford them out of pocket, she hung up on me. I called back and spoke to a supervisor. I was in tears by this point.
Finally, after threatening to call the doctor at home (I knew how to find him through another doctor friend), the proper paperwork was magically faxed, signed and then refaxed to all the appropriate places.
It wasn't the lack of efficiency of the office. It wasn't the broken fax machine. It wasn't the frustration of the pharmacist who was trying her best to be helpful.
The thing about the situation that nearly broke my spirit was the lack of compassion and the plain old bad customer service. All I wanted was someone to listen to me...to care about my problem... to do their job and fix the problem. Was that too much to ask?
To me, the biggest problem in health care today isn't the lack of coverage or availability of care but a lack of empathy and compassion. Doctors can do great things because of their great skills. But, if their staff is rude or unempathetic it ruins the whole experience. How would the woman who was so hateful to me on the phone feel if the roles had been reversed?
The next time you are in a position to serve someone, ask yourself how you would want to be treated if the roles were reversed. Ask yourself how you'd want someone you love to be treated. The answer probably won't surprise you, but the results of implementing the answer just might.
With all this talk of universal coverage and need based treatment and such, something really important is being overlooked: the basic customer service aspect of the health care industry. As a person with chronic health problems, I consider myself a pretty good judge of good customer service in a medical setting. It begins with your first phone call to the provider's office, not with the time you spend with the doctor.
Until the first of May, Tony & I were covered under COBRA. We were paying $1000 a month. Yes, that is one thousand dollars for very excellent coverage for two adults, one reasonably healthy (Tony) and the other an insurance company's nightmare (me). The most important coverage we had was our prescription drug coverage. I did find replacement coverage, but it is a huge hassle to switch everyone's information - have to call the pharmacy, the different doctors' offices and so on. My GP's office did not receive my information for reasons we will get to later. Suffice to say that since Friday of last week, I have been trying to get my four regular scripts established with the new insurance and making sure that Walgreen's had all the information they needed as well.
It is now Wednesday. As of 3pm today things were still not resolved and I had run out of my emergency supply. So, I called my doctor's office for the FIFTH time this week (not to mention the 3 times on Friday). No one seemed to be answering the phone or returning calls left in the voice mail or anything helpful like that. I had reached the end of my patience with everyone involved. So, I decided that I should try to call one more time before just showing up on their doorstep to wait until the situation was resolved.
I didn't feel well and was really cranky by the time I managed to FINALLY get someone on the phone at the GP's office. It went something like this:
Ring riiinnnngggg ringgggggggg (as the phone rang for six consecutive times, I managed to compose myself and decided to be perfectly pleasant towards whomever happened to answer the phone) RIIINNNNGGGGGGGG!!
Finally, a human voice on the other end.
Recptionist: "Hello, Dr. ---'s Office."
Me: "Hello, this is Melissa and I've been trying to reach someone there about the change in my insurance and getting all of my scripts properly transferred."
R: "AND? We're busy here. Send us a fax."
Me: "Ma'am, I did send you a fax. I faxed you, the insurance company faxed you and the pharmacy faxed you. I also left several messages and those calls were not returned, either."
R: "Oh, well...maybe our fax machine is broken. Let me check....yeah, it's broken and has been for about a week."
(picture the color in my cheeks beginning to rise and my voice becoming tight while still being polite)
Me: "I have also left several messages in the voice mail and no one has called me back."
R: "Returning calls is not my responsibility."
Me: Anyway, I am out of meds that I need on a daily basis and the insurance company isn't going to cover them until they receive signed paperwork from your office."
R: "AND?! Well, the answer is simple. Go to the pharmacy and pay for them out of pocket. This is so not my problem."
When I proceded to explain to her that I couldn't afford them out of pocket, she hung up on me. I called back and spoke to a supervisor. I was in tears by this point.
Finally, after threatening to call the doctor at home (I knew how to find him through another doctor friend), the proper paperwork was magically faxed, signed and then refaxed to all the appropriate places.
It wasn't the lack of efficiency of the office. It wasn't the broken fax machine. It wasn't the frustration of the pharmacist who was trying her best to be helpful.
The thing about the situation that nearly broke my spirit was the lack of compassion and the plain old bad customer service. All I wanted was someone to listen to me...to care about my problem... to do their job and fix the problem. Was that too much to ask?
To me, the biggest problem in health care today isn't the lack of coverage or availability of care but a lack of empathy and compassion. Doctors can do great things because of their great skills. But, if their staff is rude or unempathetic it ruins the whole experience. How would the woman who was so hateful to me on the phone feel if the roles had been reversed?
The next time you are in a position to serve someone, ask yourself how you would want to be treated if the roles were reversed. Ask yourself how you'd want someone you love to be treated. The answer probably won't surprise you, but the results of implementing the answer just might.
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
My friend Zach
In 1989, I got to meet an up and comer in East TN politics at the national YR convention in Nashville, TN. The first thing that struck me about this person was his huge personality complete with the gift of gab. Turns out that he was in real estate development, so the personality came in handy. Smile. After a few minutes of conversation, it became obvious to me that I was meeting an emerging leader of my generation. I decided to look over his shoulder for the rest of the convention and see if my initial impression was correct - that he walked his talk and knew what leadership really was all about.
He knew then and he knows now that leadership isn't about making bold statements and big promises. It's about having compassion and common sense and doing the RIGHT THING no matter what the situation is and who is or is not watching. It's about being true to yourself and the convictions you hold even when they aren't politically expedient or correct. If you are an elected official, it's about "dancing with the one who brung you", or the people of the district you have been elected to represent. Leadership is about considering everyone you lead equally, even if you don't have anything in common with their life situation and experience.
This person is a leader. He is a leader in his home and loves his wife completely and sacrificially. He is not only a father to his children but a Daddy. He is a leader in his church and an example of what a godly man is all about. He is a leader in his community and has been available day or night to people who are struggling with the same things he himself has battled.
A leader treats people with respect. Early on in our friendship, I had the opportunity to see how he interacted with people and I found out that he treated every single person he met with the same respect no matter who they were, what they looked like, or what they could offer him.
A leader always has a posse, commonly known as the inner circle of advisers. This guy has a great posse, some of whom have been a part of his life since childhood. I've met several of the people in that posse and they are all men of integrity just like him. They tell him when he's wrong and they cheer him on in all of his endeavors and stick around no matter what. Everyone should hang out with this group at least once so you can understand what real friendship is. Seeing their bond influenced me in many of my friendships because I learned to ask the right questions: would this friend be there through thick and thin? And: would this person always tell me the truth and be there to help straighten me out when I made a mistake?
Leaders must have followers. Since 1994, the people in his home district in TN have chosen him as their Congressman. Like me, they recognized a leader when they saw one and made sure that he got elected and continues to be reelected. I recently met up with him in his office in DC and found out that even though he's a respected Congressman, he still has time for old friends and he still is that same talkative person of integrity that I met 20 years ago. He is still the kind of person that you know you can trust. He is still the kind of leader that we need today.
While he had done an amazing job as a Congressman, he has made the choice this year to go home to Tennessee and seek the office of Governor. His is the kind of leadership that Tennessee needs right now in order to ride out these tough times and fulfill its potential.
In case you'd not guessed it by now, I'm talking about my friend, Zach Wamp, future Governor of the Great State of Tennessee.
He knew then and he knows now that leadership isn't about making bold statements and big promises. It's about having compassion and common sense and doing the RIGHT THING no matter what the situation is and who is or is not watching. It's about being true to yourself and the convictions you hold even when they aren't politically expedient or correct. If you are an elected official, it's about "dancing with the one who brung you", or the people of the district you have been elected to represent. Leadership is about considering everyone you lead equally, even if you don't have anything in common with their life situation and experience.
This person is a leader. He is a leader in his home and loves his wife completely and sacrificially. He is not only a father to his children but a Daddy. He is a leader in his church and an example of what a godly man is all about. He is a leader in his community and has been available day or night to people who are struggling with the same things he himself has battled.
A leader treats people with respect. Early on in our friendship, I had the opportunity to see how he interacted with people and I found out that he treated every single person he met with the same respect no matter who they were, what they looked like, or what they could offer him.
A leader always has a posse, commonly known as the inner circle of advisers. This guy has a great posse, some of whom have been a part of his life since childhood. I've met several of the people in that posse and they are all men of integrity just like him. They tell him when he's wrong and they cheer him on in all of his endeavors and stick around no matter what. Everyone should hang out with this group at least once so you can understand what real friendship is. Seeing their bond influenced me in many of my friendships because I learned to ask the right questions: would this friend be there through thick and thin? And: would this person always tell me the truth and be there to help straighten me out when I made a mistake?
Leaders must have followers. Since 1994, the people in his home district in TN have chosen him as their Congressman. Like me, they recognized a leader when they saw one and made sure that he got elected and continues to be reelected. I recently met up with him in his office in DC and found out that even though he's a respected Congressman, he still has time for old friends and he still is that same talkative person of integrity that I met 20 years ago. He is still the kind of person that you know you can trust. He is still the kind of leader that we need today.
While he had done an amazing job as a Congressman, he has made the choice this year to go home to Tennessee and seek the office of Governor. His is the kind of leadership that Tennessee needs right now in order to ride out these tough times and fulfill its potential.
In case you'd not guessed it by now, I'm talking about my friend, Zach Wamp, future Governor of the Great State of Tennessee.
God's ways are not our ways.
Mick Jagger is known for singing the lyrics, "You can't always get what you want, but sometimes you get what you need." While I am not a huge fan, there is a lot of truth in that statement, especially in life regarding the human condition.
My husband and I live on a shoestring. He's a full time student who works about 10 hours a week. I'm looking for a job, preferably on The Hill, but jobs with conservatives are pretty hard to come by these days given the outcome of November's elections. However, our needs are always met. We've never missed a rent payment and we've never gone hungry. There's always been gas in the car or money for a fare card for the train (subway). Lucy has never lacked for food, either. Dates are simple, often consisting of tuna sandwiches, a blanket and books to read on the Capitol lawn. We enjoy being together, so it's ok that the frills aren't there right now. Better days will come.
The thing is, I can't tell you how all of those bills were paid. As in, I don't know where the money always came from. All I know is that every month our needs have been met without fail. God has seen to that and we've trusted Him to continue to see to that. God doesn't always give us what we want...or what we think we want. He does, however, always give us what we need. Satisfaction can be found.
My husband and I live on a shoestring. He's a full time student who works about 10 hours a week. I'm looking for a job, preferably on The Hill, but jobs with conservatives are pretty hard to come by these days given the outcome of November's elections. However, our needs are always met. We've never missed a rent payment and we've never gone hungry. There's always been gas in the car or money for a fare card for the train (subway). Lucy has never lacked for food, either. Dates are simple, often consisting of tuna sandwiches, a blanket and books to read on the Capitol lawn. We enjoy being together, so it's ok that the frills aren't there right now. Better days will come.
The thing is, I can't tell you how all of those bills were paid. As in, I don't know where the money always came from. All I know is that every month our needs have been met without fail. God has seen to that and we've trusted Him to continue to see to that. God doesn't always give us what we want...or what we think we want. He does, however, always give us what we need. Satisfaction can be found.
Monday, June 22, 2009
Spared because of Lucy.
I never ceased to be amazed at how God works. His ways are definitely not my ways. He uses things that I'd never think were usable.
Today I had to go to the bank and stopped to window shop on the way home. Then, I got on the train...going the wrong direction. When I realized I wouldn't make it home before Tony had to leave for work, I got off the train to call him since cell phones don't work in the subways. Then, I got back on the train and went to the store to meet him (he works retail when he's not in class). After hanging out there for a while, I realized it was almost 5pm and that I really did need to get home.
Hold your thought there and let me explain about Lucy before we continue.
Lucy is a dachshund. She has been with me for about 7 years. When we got her, she was advertised to us as being a black and tan mini dachshund. In reality, she is an all black standard dachshund. It just goes to show that you can never believe everything you read on the internet (ha ha). Because she is so sweet and so unusual, we are always approached by people wanting to pet her. She does love to greet her public, too, so these sessions often take time. Sigh.
I was at the station elevator and had pressed the button to call it. A woman and her daughter approached me to pet Lucy so I didn't get on the elevator when it came. I heard the train roar into and out of the station while Lucy was having her moment. I was so annoyed because I wanted to just get home. Of course I didn't act annoyed. That's not appropriate when someone is just trying to be friendly and nice.
I did get on the next train. We left the station and sat in the tunnel. I was, of course, sitting in the car behind the driver's compartment as it is usually the best place for my chair. I could hear frantic voices over the radio but was unsure what was going on. We just continued to sit but did eventually move. I transferred trains at the appropriate station and went on home.
My phone was ringing when I got home. My usually calm husband was trying to get in touch with me and could not get through on my cell. It wasn't until I talked to him that I realized the gravity of the accident.
We pieced together the timeline and realized that yes, indeed, I would have been on that train had someone not stopped to pet Lucy.
God works in mysterious ways. Sometimes he even uses a dog named Lucy.
Today I had to go to the bank and stopped to window shop on the way home. Then, I got on the train...going the wrong direction. When I realized I wouldn't make it home before Tony had to leave for work, I got off the train to call him since cell phones don't work in the subways. Then, I got back on the train and went to the store to meet him (he works retail when he's not in class). After hanging out there for a while, I realized it was almost 5pm and that I really did need to get home.
Hold your thought there and let me explain about Lucy before we continue.
Lucy is a dachshund. She has been with me for about 7 years. When we got her, she was advertised to us as being a black and tan mini dachshund. In reality, she is an all black standard dachshund. It just goes to show that you can never believe everything you read on the internet (ha ha). Because she is so sweet and so unusual, we are always approached by people wanting to pet her. She does love to greet her public, too, so these sessions often take time. Sigh.
I was at the station elevator and had pressed the button to call it. A woman and her daughter approached me to pet Lucy so I didn't get on the elevator when it came. I heard the train roar into and out of the station while Lucy was having her moment. I was so annoyed because I wanted to just get home. Of course I didn't act annoyed. That's not appropriate when someone is just trying to be friendly and nice.
I did get on the next train. We left the station and sat in the tunnel. I was, of course, sitting in the car behind the driver's compartment as it is usually the best place for my chair. I could hear frantic voices over the radio but was unsure what was going on. We just continued to sit but did eventually move. I transferred trains at the appropriate station and went on home.
My phone was ringing when I got home. My usually calm husband was trying to get in touch with me and could not get through on my cell. It wasn't until I talked to him that I realized the gravity of the accident.
We pieced together the timeline and realized that yes, indeed, I would have been on that train had someone not stopped to pet Lucy.
God works in mysterious ways. Sometimes he even uses a dog named Lucy.
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